Dollymarie Posted May 24, 2017 Author Report Share Posted May 24, 2017 7 minutes ago, Lordofthebling said: Whoever wrote that... must've been the hardest thing to write... ...and the strength to deal with direct questions such as how long to live and where's the money going? His mum tends to be the one who posts updates. Can't imagine how she finds the strength. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoystonFoote'snephew Posted May 24, 2017 Report Share Posted May 24, 2017 5 minutes ago, Lordofthebling said: Whoever wrote that... must've been the hardest thing to write... ...and the strength to deal with direct questions such as how long to live and where's the money going? I couldn't agree more. I never cease to be amazed that despite the ills and sorrows people face their dignity and humanity still shines through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Posted May 24, 2017 Report Share Posted May 24, 2017 So sad in what has been a heartbreaking few days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BS4 on Tour... Posted May 24, 2017 Report Share Posted May 24, 2017 ...didn't think I had any more tears left after yesterday, but, yep I do.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stawey Posted May 24, 2017 Report Share Posted May 24, 2017 my thoughts to bradley and his family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dollymarie Posted May 24, 2017 Author Report Share Posted May 24, 2017 Just now, BS4 on Tour... said: ...didn't think I had any more tears left after yesterday, but, yep I do.... It's been a shitty week hasn't it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East End Old Boy Posted May 24, 2017 Report Share Posted May 24, 2017 1 hour ago, Dollymarie said: His mum tends to be the one who posts updates. Can't imagine how she finds the strength. We need a sad button, as you just can't like any of these posts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ska Junkie Posted May 24, 2017 Report Share Posted May 24, 2017 That is genuinely gutting to read. all power to his mum for writing that, what a strong woman she has turned out to be. I feel so sorry for the poor kid and his family so let's hope their oncoming tragedy is as painless as it can be. God bless the poor little bloke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bpexile Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 On 2017-5-15 at 01:02, GasDestroyer said: Words can't describe how brave this lad is. Nice touch from the Sunderland fans. Brilliant, I hope those close to him make him a winner every day. One brave little man !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bpexile Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 9 hours ago, Dollymarie said: I hate to post this update but I feel I have to My god, how do you stay composed long enough to write something like this, words truely aren't enough to describe my feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brizzlelou Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 Want this week to be over! Such sad news. As a Father myself I can't begin to imagine the pain that the family are going through. That little boy has shown more courage from day one than I've ever shown in my entire 32 years!!! I'll be heartbroken when the inevitable happens... What a hero! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dolman Pragmatist Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 On 15/05/2017 at 15:50, BobBobSuperBob said: You realise that this is the reality with a terminal illness and it's what those involved in such horrible scenarios have to face ? Recently lost both parents to cancer and I , like many and most before me who travel that path discreetly asked the question how long we have those loved ones for - some may not what to know but the harsh and sad reality is you have to face that fact at some point a it doesn't go away and doesn't mean you are thoughtless or don't care - the opposite in fact (Particularly ,and incredibly sad and tragic in one so young) Good post Bob. Sorry to hear about your parents. My best friend died of lung cancer the summer before last and the thing I learned in the three years between diagnosis and his death is that some people in that situation don't want it swept under the carpet. Tony wanted to confront it, talk about it and even laugh about it at times, and it helped him and everyone around him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Son of Fred Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 On 15/05/2017 at 16:11, Tomarse said: It wasn't meant to sound horrible. It was more that he looks really unwell lately and while its horrible to consider the thought - espcially as a parent myself - I do wonder if time is running out for Bradley Fair enough-the comment did lack a little something though...feeling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedM Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 As a parent what choice has she got, yes some may walk away but the majority don't. This isn't meant to be harsh, so don't throw this back at me please, but the family went very public with his fight against his terrible illness. News of him and Sunderlands involvement in particular has gone National if not International, just the fact we are aware of him and have this thread shows that. People are now aware and naturally interested. Of course everyone was hoping and praying for a positive outcome but the harsh reality is that is not happening. The family have no doubt faced this and have come to terms, again they have had no choice. The wider public ask how long and it seems callous, but I think they are in their ignorance of medical facts just trying to gauge the seriousness of the situation. No one knows, even specialists just make educated guesses, sometimes wildly wrong, positively and negatively. Regarding the money raised, again I think people are just looking for something to cling on to that something positive will be a legacy to Bradley. As a parent what does it for me is the fact that he is obviously in pain, that must be so hard to bare. I'd want to take the pain myself and if I'm honest just let him slip away as heartbreaking as it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BobBobSuperBob Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 8 minutes ago, RedM said: As a parent what choice has she got, yes some may walk away but the majority don't. This isn't meant to be harsh, so don't throw this back at me please, but the family went very public with his fight against his terrible illness. News of him and Sunderlands involvement in particular has gone National if not International, just the fact we are aware of him and have this thread shows that. People are now aware and naturally interested. Of course everyone was hoping and praying for a positive outcome but the harsh reality is that is not happening. The family have no doubt faced this and have come to terms, again they have had no choice. The wider public ask how long and it seems callous, but I think they are in their ignorance of medical facts just trying to gauge the seriousness of the situation. No one knows, even specialists just make educated guesses, sometimes wildly wrong, positively and negatively. Regarding the money raised, again I think people are just looking for something to cling on to that something positive will be a legacy to Bradley. As a parent what does it for me is the fact that he is obviously in pain, that must be so hard to bare. I'd want to take the pain myself and if I'm honest just let him slip away as heartbreaking as it is. Good Post M The highlighted bit is the very very worst part of the whole thing , in the latter stages , watching a loved one in terrible pain , frightened, distressed , whilst you are totally powerless to do really help in any meaningful way , and without repeating what youve so sensibly said , the last two parts so so painfully true On a 'positive' thought - Try and think how much this lad has crammed into his life , even in recent months , bless him Small consolation I know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ska Junkie Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 On 5/15/2017 at 15:50, BobBobSuperBob said: You realise that this is the reality with a terminal illness and it's what those involved in such horrible scenarios have to face ? Recently lost both parents to cancer and I , like many and most before me who travel that path discreetly asked the question how long we have those loved ones for - some may not what to know but the harsh and sad reality is you have to face that fact at some point a it doesn't go away and doesn't mean you are thoughtless or don't care - the opposite in fact (Particularly ,and incredibly sad and tragic in one so young) I've been through the same thing with my beloved mum Bob, some years ago, so totally appreciate your post. I remember vividly the 'we can do no more' meeting when the reality hit home that we were going to lose her. Incredibly painful memories and to go through that with someone as young as Bradley even add to that pain. Heartbreaking for everyone who has to 'travel that path' as you so eloquently put it only added to by the fact he's so young. Genuinely heartbreaking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ska Junkie Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 1 hour ago, RedM said: As a parent what does it for me is the fact that he is obviously in pain, that must be so hard to bare. I'd want to take the pain myself and if I'm honest just let him slip away as heartbreaking as it is. Well put RedM. I was trying to find the right way of making the same point last night but couldn't write it without sounding callous. Thanks for putting the point across so well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East End Old Boy Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 2 hours ago, Robert the bruce said: Fair enough-the comment did lack a little something though...feeling. To be honest @Tomarse only asked the question we all wanted to know the answer to. Sometimes it isn't always easy to be eloquent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Septic Peg Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 58 minutes ago, Ska Junkie said: I've been through the same thing with my beloved mum Bob, some years ago, so totally appreciate your post. I remember vividly the 'we can do no more' meeting when the reality hit home that we were going to lose her. Incredibly painful memories and to go through that with someone as young as Bradley even add to that pain. Heartbreaking for everyone who has to 'travel that path' as you so eloquently put it only added to by the fact he's so young. Genuinely heartbreaking. I too went through similar when I lost my old man. Just a few days before he passed, the ICU consultant sat us down and said they wanted to place a DNR on him and they wanted our permission. I refused as my dad would have told them to fewk off if it was me they were discussing in that hospital bed. The day he died, they called us in to tell us and I remember the first thing that came out of my gob was "So that's it then? Game over?" as my mum crumbled beside me. The surgeon and ICU consultant looked at me like I was mad. Didn't help that my eyeball was the size and colour of a cricket ball thanks to hayfever I reckon... My point being that I was blunt and to the point even at that tough time. It didn't mean I didn't respect the quacks for their care of my old man or that I wouldn't miss my dad. Being blunt is just a part of who I am. Hugs and thoughts with Brad and his family. XXX Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Son of Fred Posted May 25, 2017 Report Share Posted May 25, 2017 2 hours ago, East End Old Boy said: To be honest @Tomarse only asked the question we all wanted to know the answer to. Sometimes it isn't always easy to be eloquent. It's not hard to be tactful.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dollymarie Posted June 3, 2017 Author Report Share Posted June 3, 2017 Given weeks to live Quote Sorry for the lack of updates Iv needed some time to digest some information. Bradley has been having radio therapy to help control the pain he was having in his leg. This has helped but unfortunately pain has started else where now due to tumours growing all over. On Thursday after Bradley's last radio he took poorly and his saturation levels where very low (this is the amount of oxygen he is getting into his body), because we weren't at the RVI where he is normally treated the nurse had to get an ambulance to blue light him there. Once we were there Bradley's consultant checked him over and sent him for a chest x Ray. The results were devastating, all of Bradley's tumours have grown really fast. The reason his oxygen levels are low is because there isn't much room in his lungs now. I was told Bradley has now only got weeks to live because of how rapid the cancer is spreading. Yes I knew this was coming but I thought it was going to be months not weeks. My heart is broken in two, it is too soon for this to happen, it should never be happening to start with. My baby has had to put up with so much over the past 4 years and now he has to suffer a painful death. How is that fair??? Why should any parent have to be put through this heart ache??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exAtyeoMax Posted June 3, 2017 Report Share Posted June 3, 2017 22 minutes ago, Dollymarie said: Given weeks to live Thanks for posting this, Dolly. So sad. Poor little chap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacki Posted June 3, 2017 Report Share Posted June 3, 2017 Thanks for the update Dolly, I hadn't seen that. This whole thing is heartbreaking to read and hear about. I have 2 boys myself and just can't imagine how awful it would be to be in that situation. I just hope and pray that his last few weeks are as pain free as they can be and that his family get to see that infectious, beautiful smile plenty more times before they lose the poor little lad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRL Posted June 3, 2017 Report Share Posted June 3, 2017 36 minutes ago, Dollymarie said: Given weeks to live It is times like this that euthanasia is the kindest thing. But we don't allow it. We will happily put a animal down in excruciating pain who are in the last few weeks of life.. but we cannot be kind to terminally ill humans. Poor Bradley is going to have a hellish last few weeks on this earth. Poor kid. Feel very sorry for the family. Having lost many family members ro cancer i know whar thet are goung through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cityloyal473 Posted June 3, 2017 Report Share Posted June 3, 2017 45 minutes ago, Dollymarie said: Given weeks to live Bloody hell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Septic Peg Posted June 3, 2017 Report Share Posted June 3, 2017 Poor little man. He's old enough to understand what's going to happen to himself too and that upsets me the most. Hope the few weeks are as pain free as possible for you Brad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedM Posted June 3, 2017 Report Share Posted June 3, 2017 I really hope that the media, and yes the family have courted them, leave the family to face this with the dignity and grace that he deserves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cotham Brow Red Posted June 3, 2017 Report Share Posted June 3, 2017 Sad day. Tonight my heart goes out to him and his family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stawey Posted June 4, 2017 Report Share Posted June 4, 2017 good night god bless bradley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wanderingred Posted June 5, 2017 Report Share Posted June 5, 2017 Stay strong little lad. You are an inspiration to all of us xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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