Bristol Rob Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 It's difficult watching. Suggest you give it a view. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Septic Peg Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 Recording it as Hubby has his mate round and they are flicking through the channels to watch crap no doubt. I did watch the long trailer for it the other day and started crying. I loved Rio as a player so gonna be tough to watch this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vincent Vega Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 Anybody watching this on BBC , heartbreaking stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bristol Rob Posted March 28, 2017 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 This is heart breaking but equally liberating, grief isn't the emotion of the average Joe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bristol Rob Posted March 28, 2017 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 Suggest it's a credit to Rio for being so open about the process he has been through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRL Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 7 minutes ago, Bristol Rob said: This is heart breaking but equally liberating, grief isn't the emotion of the average Joe. Grief Is pretty much the biggest emotion any average Joe will have in their life. This programme may help a lot, but likewise will also make others very angry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dollymarie Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 Not sure I should be watching this whilst I'm feeling tired and emotional Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bristol Rob Posted March 28, 2017 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 1 minute ago, Dollymarie said: Not sure I should be watching this whilst I'm feeling tired and emotional The Doris is in bits having lost her father at a young age to Cancer. I'm sitting in admiration of a bloke who has to suddenly take on a role he never expected. I hope people who have been through similar recognise and take comfort from his investigation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dollymarie Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 Being the daughter of a not so nice man, I won't miss him when he goes. Was gutted when I lost another father figure to cancer a couple of years ago though. Cant imagine what the couple who lost their baby have been through though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bristol Rob Posted March 28, 2017 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 5 minutes ago, Dollymarie said: Being the daughter of a not so nice man, I won't miss him when he goes. Was gutted when I lost another father figure to cancer a couple of years ago though. Cant imagine what the couple who lost their baby have been through though. This show is depressingly correct. Not easy watching, but essential. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reddoh Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 29 minutes ago, Bristol Rob said: This show is depressingly correct. Not easy watching, but essential. Going through the death of my father (last of my parents) really felt I didn't want to watch it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TV Tom Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 I'm afraid I'm a chicken, couldn't bring myself to watch it, I'm sure he'd give up everything he's ever done in football to have his soul mate back, decided to watch Danny Baker's cradle to the grave instead Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tinmans Love Child Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 Very inspiring and inspirational programme, fair play to Rio for putting something so personal and difficult out there, I'm sure this will be a help to people who have been through similar situations, even though it's one of the most difficult things to go through Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dollymarie Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 The only other side to this, is that he cheated on her a bunch of times, so maybe some of his tears are guilt related to that. Doesn't stop him being a brilliant dad obviously. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midred Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 I unfortunately like I suspect alot others of our age and generation, whilst living with my dad, actually knew very little about him or his emotions. I know that he was shown little love by his parents and consequently was ill-equipped to show any love to us. He died of cancer in 1991 and I still miss him but am unsure why. He would have been 96 now and I still wonder whether given the benefit of maturity and wisdom I would known him any better. (I suspect not.) Good programme by the way. Nice to see another side to a celebrity footballer under circumstances which we all anticipate with dread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChippenhamRed Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 An excellent programme. Having recently lost a close friend who left behind a wife and two young children, and having a wife and two young kids myself, it certainly struck a chord. A tough watch, but certainly a very worthwhile watch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin101 Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 13 hours ago, Dollymarie said: The only other side to this, is that he cheated on her a bunch of times, so maybe some of his tears are guilt related to that. Doesn't stop him being a brilliant dad obviously. Was it not ten separate times? That may be just rumours. It was a moving programme, still. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dollymarie Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 19 minutes ago, Robin101 said: Was it not ten separate times? That may be just rumours. It was a moving programme, still. Ten separate women were named in the court case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 2 minutes ago, Dollymarie said: Ten separate women were named in the court case. like you said doesn't stop him being a great dad, just a scumbag. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redapple Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 I dont suppose they'd have got much of an audience if it had been about one of the other 74 men below 50 who are widowed every day in the UK. This country is so bloody celebrity/personality obsessed. I wouldn't wish Rio what has happened and wish him well and hope he and his kids come to terms with their grief and can move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dollymarie Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 Just now, Super said: like you said doesn't stop him being a great dad, just a scumbag. Oh completely. I was just a bit tired of twitter by the end of the programme making him out to be some sort of saint who'd never done a thing wrong in his life. I'm sure he's a fabulous dad. Just hope one day when his kids are old enough to find stuff out for themselves, he has those answers ready Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drew Peacock Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 Just now, redapple said: I dont suppose they'd have got much of an audience if it had been about one of the other 74 men below 50 who are widowed every day in the UK. This country is so bloody celebrity/personality obsessed. No they probably wouldn't, but I expect it would have been a lot more interesting. I would much rather have learnt how that guy from Warrington(?) came to terms with his situation. He must still be going through the mill just 6 months after his kid died. And learning a bit more about the support groups would have been good too. Did Rio actually use them? It didn't seem so, just took one idea from one. Fair play for sticking himself out there though when he has been internalising his grief. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tipps69 Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 58 minutes ago, Dollymarie said: Oh completely. I was just a bit tired of twitter by the end of the programme making him out to be some sort of saint who'd never done a thing wrong in his life. I'm sure he's a fabulous dad. Just hope one day when his kids are old enough to find stuff out for themselves, he has those answers ready I'm sure his money helps him be a brilliant Dad, nice home & everything they could ever want here (apart from their Mum obviously) & a nice holiday home in Portugal to be able to take them away whenever he wants. The majority of people who go through similar aren't so lucky to of been able to earn an obscene amount of money at such a young age & to continue earning such vast sums from what in theory amounts from just watching football. There are so many other people out there who go through similar that have to scrimp & save & work very long hours just to put food on the table. I'm in no way belittling what Rio has had to go through, it's just a little harder to feel real sorrow for someone who treats the person he 'loves' with such little contempt when they were here but now realises what that one special person meant to him, just a shame he didn't realise it when she was still here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexukhc Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 My dad was a scumbag, I last saw him when I was 4, he died when I was 16, I'm now nearly 32, almost half my life. I don't know how I'm supposed to grieve, I have no memories, I don't know how to feel, I have so many unanswered questions, people won't tell me anything. It's weird. Rio is hardly a saint, missed drugs tests and cheating. But you can't put on age on growing up and maybe he has, maybe it was guilt but that program was really good. Now I'm a father, I know I will never do what my dad did, but it scares me that one day I will leave him whether it's now or in 50years, he's the air I breathe and the reason I wake up in the morning. Or if he loses his mum, I know how great she is to him and already at 3months he can feel that too. It's too sad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Major Isewater Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 2 hours ago, Dollymarie said: Oh completely. I was just a bit tired of twitter by the end of the programme making him out to be some sort of saint who'd never done a thing wrong in his life. I'm sure he's a fabulous dad. Just hope one day when his kids are old enough to find stuff out for themselves, he has those answers ready I'm only human after all , don't put the blame on me . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
supercidered Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 4 hours ago, redapple said: I dont suppose they'd have got much of an audience if it had been about one of the other 74 men below 50 who are widowed every day in the UK. This country is so bloody celebrity/personality obsessed. I wouldn't wish Rio what has happened and wish him well and hope he and his kids come to terms with their grief and can move on. What a brilliant post. Of those other 74 how many of them have to go back to work within days of the death to keep a roof over their heads, pay the bills and feed the kids? Before I get pelters for being unsympathetic, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I also don't begrudge him his wealth but he can afford a nanny and or housekeeper to pick up the kids, keep house whilst he can go to work as and when / if he chooses! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GrahamC Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 3 hours ago, alexukhc said: My dad was a scumbag, I last saw him when I was 4, he died when I was 16, I'm now nearly 32, almost half my life. I don't know how I'm supposed to grieve, I have no memories, I don't know how to feel, I have so many unanswered questions, people won't tell me anything. It's weird. Rio is hardly a saint, missed drugs tests and cheating. But you can't put on age on growing up and maybe he has, maybe it was guilt but that program was really good. Now I'm a father, I know I will never do what my dad did, but it scares me that one day I will leave him whether it's now or in 50years, he's the air I breathe and the reason I wake up in the morning. Or if he loses his mum, I know how great she is to him and already at 3months he can feel that too. It's too sad This is a brilliant post, mate. Fair play to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexukhc Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 1 hour ago, GrahamC said: This is a brilliant post, mate. Fair play to you. Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steveybadger Posted March 31, 2017 Report Share Posted March 31, 2017 Bit late but my 2 pennies: doesn't really matter what you do as a job, how much cash etc, when u lose someone u love it's tough. To my mind, however he treated his wife, it's clear his love and therefore grief is genuine, and i'm not sure anybody deserves what he had to go through. His kids definitely don't. And yes I agree celebs obsession is crap but in this case good on him for making the programme - it will undoubtedly help a number of people get over their loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robbored Posted March 31, 2017 Report Share Posted March 31, 2017 It shows perfectly just how beneficial group work is. Talking to others who have been where you are is a great relief to know that you distress and sadness is perfectly normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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