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And just when we thought they hadn't done anything that stupid recently - BANG - back in the game!!

We can all agree 2020 has been a year like no other any of us have experienced before, and with that has brought many added pressures to people at a time of year where suicide rates increase. Please, if you feel alone or are struggling, try to talk to someone. Life might not always feel like living and you may feel like you are at rock bottom, but the world is a much better place with you in it. Personally this site really helps me, I have really low and negative days but keeping in touch with the Bristol City family is a massive thing. If anyone ever feels alone, please reach out. You can message me, or one of the many other supportive posters on here, or even talk to someone. I won't divulge personal information but I can't thank those people enough that have picked up when I've been struggling and taken the time to message me. We come from all backgrounds, beliefs, age groups and football teams etc, but I believe everyone on here would look out for a friend in need. A few of the Bristol City social media accounts shared the below today. Hopefully it'll also appear on the official website too.

Wow!!! Thank u very much, again you will be sorely disappointed when we finally meet. thank you for the thought, been a tough time for everyone, keep smiling people , and always remember football fans are one big family who can listen and help no matter what the problem is. I have weirdly missed all of you, even the abusive ones ?and can’t wait for fans to return to football. deployed to Bristol city centre team so might catch up with some of you before football returns, keep safe everyone ?

Good second half from Bristol. Poor enough in the first half but they sorted it out. Some really poor decisions turning down kickable penalties at 9-0 down but looked a totally different side after half time.

Thanks, and thanks for your kind words. As I write she is due to have a procedure to remove fluid from her lungs. You are 100% correct that she will be getting better care in Flinders rather than the small country hospital that is Victor. My family all live in Seaford on the southern outskirts of Adelaide so Dad has gone to stay with my Sister. Problem is he is 96 so is not handling the situation too well. Mum is 91. We are worried that when Mum passes (which is inevitable) that he will just pine away also. He is not in great health either and each day is a bonus if he stays vertical rather than horizontal with the falls he has. Normally I visit twice a year for 4 weeks but obviously can't do so now. Just want to be with them and do my bit to help. That is probably my biggest downer at the moment. I fully appreciate and understand the situation but my inability to be there for them is eating away at me. Wife is due an op on 7th Jan but they have assured us it's nothing terminal which is a relief. In the meantime though she needs my assistance also as her mobility is very restricted. Trying my best to remain positive but have good & bad moments. No wonder I drink !!!

I have the opposite as my Mum has just been transferred from Victor Harbor to Flinders in Adelaide in the paliative care unit. Want to visit but just can't. She's been told she only has a couple of weeks left. Feeling devastated.

The try just before half-time was crucial. Miles better after that.

With genuine sincerity- I send my best wishes to you at a very very difficult life moment.

saw on Points West they gave iPads to elderly gas fans so they can Skype relatives who they otherwise wouldn’t be able to see over xmas. a classy touch. credit where credit is due.

I think that the flames actually mean that people agree wholeheartedly with your post rather than in the negative.

Dear all! I love this community and each single poster on this forum. Together we stay strong. God Jul fellow reds!

Great post. One thing I'd like to add to this, everyone, it's great to tell people you are always there to lend an ear and talk but please, please make sure if you know anyone who is struggling, has struggled in the past or you have any concerns, pick up the phone and give them a call. I see a lot of people who say "I'm there for you, call me if you need" but a lot of people facing dark times won't do that. They will be too worried they'll be judged, won't want to bother you or are so down they can't even face the effort of picking up the phone. Give your friends a call. Give people you know are on their own a call. Take 5 minutes of your time just to check in and say "Hi mate, how are things?" That could really make the difference to someone's day.

Condensed version....thinking of you BigTone. Stay strong mate.

When you said your mate was married to her daughter, I just assumed it would be her brother.

Feel free to move to dustbin thread.

Hope you all have a good Christmas despite all the crap that has gone on and continues to go on. If ever anyone needs a chat then please PM me anytime. Sometimes I think it can be easier talking to people you don't really know than those you do as it's easier to offload. Perhaps when all this is over we can all meet up for a pint and a laugh. Be good and mostly stay safe. Happy Christmas Tony PS: @JulieHasked that I share her xmas pic with you all..

I thought flames meant that you we’re stoking up a debate. Depression is an illness and it is very easy to slide into a deep hole that is difficult to get out of. A kind word or action cannot cure the malady but can be the catalyst that reignites the belief in oneself. Life could be so much better if people were just a tiny bit kinder. Let’s try to be less agressive and more understanding of other’s faults or opinions because we are all wonderfully imperfect. I will take this moment to thank you all for your continued and various exchanges on this forum. Have a safe and happy Christmas. Love to all the OTIB family.