Dynamite Red Posted April 2, 2016 Report Share Posted April 2, 2016 If life gets so miserable what would you do, homeless, jobless, estranged from your family due to anxiety and deprrssion, none of the local authorities want to help you and forced to live in your car. What would you do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joe jordans teeth Posted April 2, 2016 Report Share Posted April 2, 2016 Have a look at yourself and stop blaming everyone else but yourself like the scumbags in this country do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
screech Posted April 2, 2016 Report Share Posted April 2, 2016 14 minutes ago, joe jordans teeth said: Have a look at yourself and stop blaming everyone else but yourself like the scumbags in this country do Is this straight out of the Dummies Guide to Talking Shit? I hope you never experience depression, my cousins son took his life, he was mid 20's, it's a ******* horrible illness. Pillock. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joe jordans teeth Posted April 2, 2016 Report Share Posted April 2, 2016 8 minutes ago, screech said: Is this straight out of the Dummies Guide to Talking Shit? I hope you never experience depression, my cousins son took his life, he was mid 20's, it's a ******* horrible illness. Pillock. It is a horrible illness you pillock which is why nearly all dole bangers claim they got it,it's hard to say they haven't Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joe jordans teeth Posted April 2, 2016 Report Share Posted April 2, 2016 Some people live in a different world jeez,open your eyes screech Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dynamite Red Posted April 3, 2016 Author Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 2 hours ago, joe jordans teeth said: Have a look at yourself and stop blaming everyone else but yourself like the scumbags in this country do Thank you for the reply, I hadn't realised I was blaming everyone else, guess I am just another scumbag. I won't give you the pleasure of how your comments made me feel or even an iota of information of how I have ended up in my current situation due to no fault of my own. I have looked at myself for the last 20 years since dealing with these mental issues, maybe to intensely and that is half the problem. I have worked and held down very good jobs for the majority of my life but I guess that makes not only a scumbag but a dole banger as well because currently I am unable to cope, for the record I am currently receiving zero benefit but have had to use a food bank. Best of luck and I genuinely hope you never have to cope with any form of illness or disability that leaves you in a situation you require advice or help or a reason to reach out to people. I actually pity you and as shit as my life is right now I know that not only will this make me a better person but have the empathy and compassion that clearly you could ever lack. Sweet Dreams x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joe jordans teeth Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 45 minutes ago, Dynamite Red said: Thank you for the reply, I hadn't realised I was blaming everyone else, guess I am just another scumbag. I won't give you the pleasure of how your comments made me feel or even an iota of information of how I have ended up in my current situation due to no fault of my own. I have looked at myself for the last 20 years since dealing with these mental issues, maybe to intensely and that is half the problem. I have worked and held down very good jobs for the majority of my life but I guess that makes not only a scumbag but a dole banger as well because currently I am unable to cope, for the record I am currently receiving zero benefit but have had to use a food bank. Best of luck and I genuinely hope you never have to cope with any form of illness or disability that leaves you in a situation you require advice or help or a reason to reach out to people. I actually pity you and as shit as my life is right now I know that not only will this make me a better person but have the empathy and compassion that clearly you could ever lack. Sweet Dreams x I didn't mean you,but seeing as your using food banks and still type on here using a phone or laptop I would suggest you got ur priorities wrong.sweet dreams x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BristolCity1992 Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 JJT your comments are childish and frankly out of order. DR I hope whatever situation you are in improves. Have you spoken to some of the charities such as mind? I cant tell if the first post is just an example or your situation so it's hard to suggest things you can do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phileas Fogg Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 5 hours ago, joe jordans teeth said: I didn't mean you,but seeing as your using food banks and still type on here using a phone or laptop I would suggest you got ur priorities wrong.sweet dreams x I've always had an inkling you aren't the brightest but this has been confirmed now. Grow up and try to see the bigger picture. Sorry to hear about your situation DR. Obviously every situation is different but if any time is one for support from your friends it's now. I'd reach out to your closest most trusted friends and stay with them if you can. Best of luck with it all, sounds horrible Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dollymarie Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 6 hours ago, Dynamite Red said: Thank you for the reply, I hadn't realised I was blaming everyone else, guess I am just another scumbag. I won't give you the pleasure of how your comments made me feel or even an iota of information of how I have ended up in my current situation due to no fault of my own. I have looked at myself for the last 20 years since dealing with these mental issues, maybe to intensely and that is half the problem. I have worked and held down very good jobs for the majority of my life but I guess that makes not only a scumbag but a dole banger as well because currently I am unable to cope, for the record I am currently receiving zero benefit but have had to use a food bank. Best of luck and I genuinely hope you never have to cope with any form of illness or disability that leaves you in a situation you require advice or help or a reason to reach out to people. I actually pity you and as shit as my life is right now I know that not only will this make me a better person but have the empathy and compassion that clearly you could ever lack. Sweet Dreams x DR, I'd be happy to try and help you if I can, I have some experience in this area. Have you been to the GP? You need to go to the job centre and use one of their phones to tell them what you said above, and ask to claim ESA. PM me if you want to, so I can direct you to the right people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robbored Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 8 hours ago, joe jordans teeth said: Have a look at yourself and stop blaming everyone else but yourself like the scumbags in this country do Ffs....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welcome To The Jungle Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 Baby steps are key. Depression is a bastard that normally does not go away. So around it you must take baby steps. Work out what you have and what you need. This might mean taking jobs that are unpleasant for a while but bit by bit you have to edge back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dynamite Red Posted April 3, 2016 Author Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 1 hour ago, Dollymarie said: DR, I'd be happy to try and help you if I can, I have some experience in this area. Have you been to the GP? You need to go to the job centre and use one of their phones to tell them what you said above, and ask to claim ESA. PM me if you want to, so I can direct you to the right people. Many thanks Dolls, I have sat down with the Job centre though not having an address seemed an issue. Finally after speaking with my MP they are finally processing a claim. I have visited the council offices at both South Glos and Bristol City after passed from pillar to post and refused homeless housing shelters due to the owning a car as they deem that suitable accommodation for the moment, plus my anxiety is so bad it maybe a blessing in disguise. Last week things got so bad that the Intensive crisis team from the mental health unit stepped in but now all this information has come out my friends and family either look at you in a different light or some just cannot cope themselves and ignore you which has been the biggest shock. Like people say little step, I shouldn't have posted the original topic but last night was so rough I just felt sick of being so isolated from society. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
... Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 11 hours ago, Dynamite Red said: If life gets so miserable what would you do, homeless, jobless, estranged from your family due to anxiety and deprrssion, none of the local authorities want to help you and forced to live in your car. What would you do? You KEEP GOING. Things will get better eventually. Wipe the slate clean, you have your whole life ahead of you. Uncle TFR Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red-Robbo Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 My only advice DR would be to see each problem as an individual situation that can and will get sorted. Purposely don't look at the "big picture" and see everything as hopeless and awful. Tackle what you can, small steps at first maybe, but every journey begins with a small step. The intelligent of us on this board know that anyone could through a series of events find themselves at "rock bottom". There but for the grace of God (or whatever) are all of us. So, I hope you can make that piecemeal progress on the challenges you face and reach a happier place sooner rather than later. Good luck mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedM Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 11 hours ago, joe jordans teeth said: Have a look at yourself and stop blaming everyone else but yourself like the scumbags in this country do And I would respectfully suggest that you have a look at yourself. If you cannot contribute something to another human being that is clearly in a place you don't understand,or want to understand, then you should remove yourself from this thread before the decision is made for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Septic Peg Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 57 minutes ago, Dynamite Red said: Many thanks Dolls, I have sat down with the Job centre though not having an address seemed an issue. Finally after speaking with my MP they are finally processing a claim. I have visited the council offices at both South Glos and Bristol City after passed from pillar to post and refused homeless housing shelters due to the owning a car as they deem that suitable accommodation for the moment, plus my anxiety is so bad it maybe a blessing in disguise. Last week things got so bad that the Intensive crisis team from the mental health unit stepped in but now all this information has come out my friends and family either look at you in a different light or some just cannot cope themselves and ignore you which has been the biggest shock. Like people say little step, I shouldn't have posted the original topic but last night was so rough I just felt sick of being so isolated from society. I have experience of a relative with a moderate/severe mental health issue so I understand what you're going through. Especially with the crisis team/secondary intervention etc. I am so sorry that there are people who either troll for attention or are just generally narrow-minded on here. It disappoints me to know that these uneducated people aren't really getting a full grasp of the world and its issues. I see you've already applied for ESA. Please make sure you are placed in the appropriate group. Work group is for people deemed to require support returning to work after treatment. Support group is for people who are deemed unable to return to work at all. Also, consider applying for PIP. This is the new DLA, and has two components. Daily living and mobility. And both components are paid at standard rate or enhanced. In the case of my relative, they have no mobility issues so isn't entitled in that respect, but they get enhanced daily living. And for the moaners, my relative's spouse DOESN'T claim carers allowance (when they are more than entitled to) as they feel it is their job to look after their ill partner. Get well soon DR. Little steps fella but one day, this will look like a bad dream. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhistleHappy Posted April 3, 2016 Report Share Posted April 3, 2016 11 hours ago, joe jordans teeth said: Have a look at yourself and stop blaming everyone else but yourself like the scumbags in this country do Ffs ... Duncan-Smith - I thought we'd seen the back of you! (for J.J.T. read I.D.'dont give Atos' S) .... shameful & sad attitude J J T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fiale Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 I suffered (well still do to an extent) depression for most of my life, the worst time being when I spent almost 4 years not leaving my house apart from food shopping once a month (late at night to avoid having to see/meet people). I ate through my live savings in those years on rent/food never claiming money/signing on because... well depression, it makes you feel unworthy, un-needed, an totally unable to cope. Looking back I just wish I had seen my GP a lot sooner, they put me on medication, signed paperwork that I handed into the job centre meaning I could claim whilst not looking for work or going through the stress of having to go to the job centre to sign on for 6 months. I don't know how things are handled now, but the GP was the first step in getting my life back on track. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aizoon Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 On 03/04/2016 at 02:44, joe jordans teeth said: I didn't mean you,but seeing as your using food banks and still type on here using a phone or laptop I would suggest you got ur priorities wrong.sweet dreams x Beyond belief Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aizoon Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 On 03/04/2016 at 11:45, WhistleHappy said: Ffs ... Duncan-Smith - I thought we'd seen the back of you! (for J.J.T. read I.D.'dont give Atos' S) .... shameful & sad attitude J J T Nasty case of Irritable D1ckhead Syndrome, I'm afraid Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRock Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 It's all about anchors!!! Get some physiological anchors out quick. Even small ones will help secure you - like visiting a favourite place. Eventually, they will provide some traction to rebuild your life. Golden retreiver was a godsend as well :-) bless her. Best of luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aizoon Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 Small goals. If you achieve just one small thing you've set yourself each day, that's progress... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dynamite Red Posted April 4, 2016 Author Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 Many thanks for the kind replies, I am setting myself daily goals and seem to be achieving them, like people say step by step. The biggest obstacle and most mentally taxing seems to be getting any sort of accommodation sorted. I am meeting South Glos council Friday as I seem to have zero hope with Bristol City Council becuase they are so overloaded with people in my situation. I was discharged today from the intensive mental health crisis team and I am now in the hands of other mental health departments and charities to help finally deal with my anxiety and depression. I am feeling stronger each day and refuse to let this beat me. Sorry for the rambling and this was not the best place to reach out but I am glad I did, some of the personal messages I have received have been very supportive. Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aizoon Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 My wife worked for the Crisis Team and has been on the other side of the fence, so I have some idea where you're coming from with this. Apart from the odd idiot, you'll get help and encouragement here, so feel free to talk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welcome To The Jungle Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 Where are you based at the moment DR? Gloucester road? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Red Rich Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 On 3 April 2016 at 08:43, Robbored said: Ffs....... Jesus RR, I've just liked one of your posts.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Red Rich Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 Apart from one ginormous ***** your in safe hands here DR. Are you still able to get to games? Would be delighted to help get you to a couple of games, I'm sure others would be too. Stay positive, you can and will get through this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRUEBRIT66 Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 The company I started working for today are on a recruitment drive for non lgv drivers and drivers mates temp to perm on agency to start, if your interested pm me and I will send you the details. Keep your chin up it will get better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lanterne Rouge Posted April 4, 2016 Report Share Posted April 4, 2016 Whatever else we might disagree about you can pretty much guarantee folks on here will try and help if someone`s in trouble whether it`s by relating their own experiences and how they`re trying to deal with them or just supporting someone who needs it. Just keep going with those baby steps mate and you`ll get there in the end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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