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Coming out as homosexual in the Championship


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17 minutes ago, mozo said:

I noticed this team mentioned a few months ago. Again I am never sure on whether these things are positive or not. A bit like the Asian only leagues that can be found in cricket etc, although it’s good that people can get involved in a safe environment, I am not sure it helps with integration into the mainstream. 

The club should be applauded for their involvement though, women’s football is clearly a potential money spinner as it’s popularity grows, I can’t imagine they are in this for the money though.

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47 minutes ago, Port Said Red said:

I noticed this team mentioned a few months ago. Again I am never sure on whether these things are positive or not. A bit like the Asian only leagues that can be found in cricket etc, although it’s good that people can get involved in a safe environment, I am not sure it helps with integration into the mainstream. 

The club should be applauded for their involvement though, women’s football is clearly a potential money spinner as it’s popularity grows, I can’t imagine they are in this for the money though.

From a business perspective the club woud be prudent to reach out to as many groups as possible.

KFC don't do a vegan option because of their morality! 

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8 minutes ago, glastonred said:

Like: Chris Smalling, Phil Neville, Cameron Jerome, Lewis Hamilton, David Hay, Serena Williams, and many more?

As I said, my remark was slightly tongue in cheek and the point I was making was that many people are happy to say they don't care about one aspect of a strangers life, yet  get outraged about another aspect of it.

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WOW

You can tell it's not footie season, 8 pages and still going strong

Some of the comments disguised as humour make you realise how much snidey covert Homophobia still exists hidden in 2019. :facepalm:

Hey Ho I'm off to Bristol Pride 🌈 

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9 hours ago, Miah Dennehy said:

It was slightly tongue in cheek, but I was a bit serious. The vast majority of people theses days seem to - thankfully- have the attitude of 'I don't care about people's sexual preferences' but many of these same people seem to care very strongly about what other people eat.

Q- How do you know if someone is a vegan..? 

A- They tell you..! 

Goes for other things as well as sexuality and I have to admit that I don’t really get it  

I don’t feel the need to tell people about my preferences, so I don’t really understand the need that some feel to make sure that I know theirs. 

I don’t care who someone else is in love with, that’s their business - I’m just not sure why they feel such a need to make sure that I and others know about it. 

 

 

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22 minutes ago, Bar BS3 said:

Q- How do you know if someone is a vegan..? 

A- They tell you..! 

Goes for other things as well as sexuality and I have to admit that I don’t really get it  

I don’t feel the need to tell people about my preferences, so I don’t really understand the need that some feel to make sure that I know theirs. 

I don’t care who someone else is in love with, that’s their business - I’m just not sure why they feel such a need to make sure that I and others know about it. 

 

 

The thing is, most gay people and most vegans (to pick those particular groups) don't tell you, it's just a perception , because those who make most noise are the ones that grab your attention. My Facebook page has far more meat eating people whineging about vegans than vice versa and far more Brexiteers moaning about remainers moaning than remainers actually moaning. I think some people just love to be outraged :)

The fact is that some vegans, gays, brexiteers, remainers , tories, socialists etc etc are louder than others and for each group there are many. many more who just go about their business without preaching to anyone.

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47 minutes ago, Bar BS3 said:

Q- How do you know if someone is a vegan..? 

A- They tell you..! 

Goes for other things as well as sexuality and I have to admit that I don’t really get it  

I don’t feel the need to tell people about my preferences, so I don’t really understand the need that some feel to make sure that I know theirs. 

I don’t care who someone else is in love with, that’s their business - I’m just not sure why they feel such a need to make sure that I and others know about it. 

 

 

It isn’t telling people about your preferences though. I don’t think most gay people want to tell other people their sexuality but they do want to be able to talk about their lives. It’s not at all unusual for someone to come into work on a Monday and talk about where they went or what they did with their husband or wife over the weekend. It’s not all unusual for people to talk their friends about the boy or girl they have started dating.

If someone is gay, none of these things are people promoting their sexuality - just talking about their lives as anyone would. But it is hard to do that if you feel compelled to hide the gender of the person you are talking about.

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10 minutes ago, Miah Dennehy said:

The thing is, most gay people and most vegans (to pick those particular groups) don't tell you, it's just a perception , because those who make most noise are the ones that grab your attention. My Facebook page has far more meat eating people whineging about vegans than vice versa and far more Brexiteers moaning about remainers moaning than remainers actually moaning. I think some people just love to be outraged :)

The fact is that some vegans, gays, brexiteers, remainers , tories, socialists etc etc are louder than others and for each group there are many. many more who just go about their business without preaching to anyone.

He who shouts the loudest is not necessarily right.

but they can possibly spell whingeing (no red underlining on mine 🤞) or are you subconsciously gingist?

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45 minutes ago, Bar BS3 said:

Q- How do you know if someone is a vegan..? 

A- They tell you..! 

Goes for other things as well as sexuality and I have to admit that I don’t really get it  

I don’t feel the need to tell people about my preferences, so I don’t really understand the need that some feel to make sure that I know theirs. 

I don’t care who someone else is in love with, that’s their business - I’m just not sure why they feel such a need to make sure that I and others know about it. 

 

 

I suppose in case A,         if you invite them for dinner and give them a nice rare steak, they are bound to tell you .

Don't think many people get invited round for a sex party and are foisted off with a person of the opposite gender  ( so you wouldn't know ) !

(down Rudolph, that wasn't an offer )

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Has he come out yet?

Let's just get it over with and get back to normality. All this fuss is just making it more than it should. Just sneak it in and stop being a drama queen. I really don't care what they do outside of football. Can the season please start soon please

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2 hours ago, Bar BS3 said:

Q- How do you know if someone is a vegan..? 

A- They tell you..! 

Goes for other things as well as sexuality and I have to admit that I don’t really get it  

I don’t feel the need to tell people about my preferences, so I don’t really understand the need that some feel to make sure that I know theirs. 

I don’t care who someone else is in love with, that’s their business - I’m just not sure why they feel such a need to make sure that I and others know about it. 

 

 

An awful lot of it is about attention seeking

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1 minute ago, AshtonGreat said:

An awful lot of it is about attention seeking

Perhaps, perhaps not. That’s not really my point. My point is more the confusion over why certain sectors of society find it so important for other people to know about their home lives. 

Eat meat (no jokes!) or don’t - I don’t care. 

Sleep with men, women, or both - I don’t care. 

It’s the constant insistence on me needing to know, that confuses me. 

So many comedians, hosts, etc can’t help but state their homosexuality. Why..? Genuine question. 

It would never occur to me to announce to complete strangers that I like pussy and enjoy a nice steak. It’s none of their business and I wouldn’t expect them to want to know..! 

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Just now, Bar BS3 said:

Perhaps, perhaps not. That’s not really my point. My point is more the confusion over why certain sectors of society find it so important for other people to know about their home lives. 

Eat meat (no jokes!) or don’t - I don’t care. 

Sleep with men, women, or both - I don’t care. 

It’s the constant insistence on me needing to know, that confuses me. 

So many comedians, hosts, etc can’t help but state their homosexuality. Why..? Genuine question. 

It would never occur to me to announce to complete strangers that I like pussy and enjoy a nice steak. It’s none of their business and I wouldn’t expect them to want to know..! 

You just did :)

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3 minutes ago, Bar BS3 said:

Perhaps, perhaps not. That’s not really my point. My point is more the confusion over why certain sectors of society find it so important for other people to know about their home lives. 

Eat meat (no jokes!) or don’t - I don’t care. 

Sleep with men, women, or both - I don’t care. 

It’s the constant insistence on me needing to know, that confuses me. 

So many comedians, hosts, etc can’t help but state their homosexuality. Why..? Genuine question. 

It would never occur to me to announce to complete strangers that I like pussy and enjoy a nice steak. It’s none of their business and I wouldn’t expect them to want to know..! 

I know people eat dogs but not cats . 

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3 minutes ago, Rinkadink said:

Is it really genuine when this has been answered multiple times in this thread already? 

Genuine question.

I’ve probably missed the replies to that then. Obviously! I wouldn’t have asked if I knew the answer. 

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Ignored all the local "Pride" marches. I couldnt care less. Ignored most of this thread. I couldnt care less. I dont feel the need to advertise my sexuality, or that of my family, friends and work colleagues. Maybe its an age thing but I seem to get on with most members of the human race and genuinely couldnt care less about race, colour, creed, disability, sexual orientation, gender or anything else. It shouldnt surprise me that this is becoming a big issue, but it does. Whoever the bloke is, whatever his team, cut him and he bleeds....therefore he should be entitled to the same considerations as everyone else. 

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35 minutes ago, Bar BS3 said:

Perhaps, perhaps not. That’s not really my point. My point is more the confusion over why certain sectors of society find it so important for other people to know about their home lives. 

Eat meat (no jokes!) or don’t - I don’t care. 

Sleep with men, women, or both - I don’t care. 

It’s the constant insistence on me needing to know, that confuses me. 

So many comedians, hosts, etc can’t help but state their homosexuality. Why..? Genuine question. 

It would never occur to me to announce to complete strangers that I like pussy and enjoy a nice steak. It’s none of their business and I wouldn’t expect them to want to know..! 

I suspect that a comedian or whoever pointing out that they are gay also gives some context to what follows after that.

I don't think I've seen a comedian mention their sexuality without the fact it gives context to the anecdote or joke they are building up to.

 

Equally I suspect that in everyday life if someone doesn't know another person is gay/bi then (unless the person is extremely camp) they are assumed to be straight).

At the same time someone who comes across a bit camp probably gets assumed to be gay even if they aren't.

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I can see why vegans mention it to people, it avoids awkwardness later on if you go out for food or go to somebody’s house for dinner.

I have a vegan friend who is constantly going on about it on Facebook though. It gets really annoying after a while, we get it mate!

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Please can we stop this thread now, as it is going round in circles.  Here we are on page eight and someone has just said they don’t understand why someone has to announce their preferences, an opinion voiced on page one I think.

For the last time, it isn’t about announcing your sexual preferences to the world, it is all about being able to be yourself in society.  It is about not having to hide.  Surely that’s pretty straightforward?

Do we really need eight pages on a subject about which there should really be no debate in a civilised society?

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14 hours ago, Miah Dennehy said:

The thing is, most gay people and most vegans (to pick those particular groups) don't tell you, it's just a perception , because those who make most noise are the ones that grab your attention. My Facebook page has far more meat eating people whineging about vegans than vice versa and far more Brexiteers moaning about remainers moaning than remainers actually moaning. I think some people just love to be outraged :)

The fact is that some vegans, gays, brexiteers, remainers , tories, socialists etc etc are louder than others and for each group there are many. many more who just go about their business without preaching to anyone.

I appreciate that you didn't select it but I think vegans are a bad parallel as I don't know anyone who is bothered by what somebody else doesn't eat and there isn't going to be a shouted insult like "Smith you bloody vegan".

You also get militant vegans who try to impose their views upon other people, whereas I've not heard of any gay people insisting that everyone should be gay.

I'm not trying to steer the thread towards a debate on veganism but don't think it works as a parallel.
 

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Some 20 protesters stormed Touro steakhouse on Saturday in the English seaside resort of Brighton, with one saying, "This smells horrible, look at all the flesh," a Facebook Live video of the episode shows.

Then, as one protester makes a speech, diners shout her down, with some making mooing sounds to drown out her voice.

"It's not meat, it's violence," shout the demonstrators.

Protesters then play recordings of screaming animals but the tenor of the room changed when some patrons started to shout and chant, the video shows.

https://edition.cnn.com/2018/11/28/uk/vegan-protesters-steakhouse-gbr-scli-intl/index.html
 

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MELBOURNE, Australia — When vegan activists halted morning traffic on Monday at one of Australia’s busiest intersections, Prime Minister Scott Morrison described their actions as “un-Australian.”

The traffic disruption in Melbourne was part of a “Day of Action” protesting the consumption of animal products, during which activists also chained themselves to machinery at an abattoir and blockaded a gas chamber at a pig farm.

 

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/10/world/australia/vegans-protest-farms.html

 

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8 minutes ago, Eddie Hitler said:

I appreciate that you didn't select it but I think vegans are a bad parallel as I don't know anyone who is bothered by what somebody else doesn't eat and there isn't going to be a shouted insult like "Smith you bloody vegan".

You also get militant vegans who try to impose their views upon other people, whereas I've not heard of any gay people insisting that everyone should be gay.

I'm not trying to steer the thread towards a debate on veganism but don't think it works as a parallel.
 

https://edition.cnn.com/2018/11/28/uk/vegan-protesters-steakhouse-gbr-scli-intl/index.html
 

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/10/world/australia/vegans-protest-farms.html

 

Militant vegan cyclists

 

Work of the devil .....

:ph34r:

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9 minutes ago, Eddie Hitler said:

I appreciate that you didn't select it but I think vegans are a bad parallel as I don't know anyone who is bothered by what somebody else doesn't eat and there isn't going to be a shouted insult like "Smith you bloody vegan".

You also get militant vegans who try to impose their views upon other people, whereas I've not heard of any gay people insisting that everyone should be gay.

I'm not trying to steer the thread towards a debate on veganism but don't think it works as a parallel.
 

https://edition.cnn.com/2018/11/28/uk/vegan-protesters-steakhouse-gbr-scli-intl/index.html
 

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/10/world/australia/vegans-protest-farms.html

 

I'm surprised at that, I have heard and read an awful lot of hostile views on vegans . 

I too have never heard of gay people insisting others be gay, but there were certainly some forced 'outings' by gay groups in the past.

 

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