PHILINFRANCE Posted March 7, 2022 Report Share Posted March 7, 2022 2 hours ago, BigTone said: Wife not 100%. Saw Specialist today and needs urgent surgery next Monday. FFS. Seems like the cancer has returned. Best Wishes for your wife, obviously, and I remember your account of your elderly parents in Australia when you were unable to visit due to the COVID travel restrictions so I hope all turns out as well as it can. It is at moments like your wife’s current predicament that one appreciates the French health system - an urgent medical intervention just one week after a specialist appointment. Good Luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigTone Posted March 8, 2022 Report Share Posted March 8, 2022 11 hours ago, PHILINFRANCE said: Best Wishes for your wife, obviously, and I remember your account of your elderly parents in Australia when you were unable to visit due to the COVID travel restrictions so I hope all turns out as well as it can. It is at moments like your wife’s current predicament that one appreciates the French health system - an urgent medical intervention just one week after a specialist appointment. Good Luck The system here is amazing TBH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 9, 2022 Report Share Posted March 9, 2022 (edited) On 07/03/2022 at 18:34, BigTone said: Wife not 100%. Saw Specialist today and needs urgent surgery next Monday. FFS. Seems like the cancer has returned. Sad to hear this, hope they get it all out and you both have many years ahead of you after. Been living in fear of your last 4 words myself for 2 years now but luckily all clear to date and 3mth MRI/CT/Endescopy watch has now changed to 4 monthly. Its not over but every minute/day/month/year is a bonus for me from what could have been a life ending bowel tumor if not noticed/caught/operated on early enough. Hope all goes well with the surgery, and her battle with cancer is won Edited March 9, 2022 by gl2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red7 Posted March 12, 2022 Report Share Posted March 12, 2022 On 07/03/2022 at 18:34, BigTone said: Wife not 100%. Saw Specialist today and needs urgent surgery next Monday. FFS. Seems like the cancer has returned. Best wishes to your wife and you, @BigTone. Hope all goes well on Monday. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyna Posted March 13, 2022 Report Share Posted March 13, 2022 On 07/03/2022 at 18:34, BigTone said: Wife not 100%. Saw Specialist today and needs urgent surgery next Monday. FFS. Seems like the cancer has returned. Hope all goes well for tomorrow @BigTone. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vespa Red Posted March 14, 2022 Report Share Posted March 14, 2022 Sadly, Mrs Red (Andrea) passed away peacefully in the early hours of Friday morning with me and our 3 boys surrounding her with the love that she always respected. We are broken but we made a promise to her that we would stay strong as a unit and somehow get through this. We have spent a very emotional weekend talking, reminiscing, crying and laughing because before the cancer, life had been beautiful. We will get through this, I am determined of that. It is what she would have wanted. 1 6 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vespa Red Posted March 14, 2022 Report Share Posted March 14, 2022 On 07/03/2022 at 18:34, BigTone said: Wife not 100%. Saw Specialist today and needs urgent surgery next Monday. FFS. Seems like the cancer has returned. Mate, I am so sorry to hear this. Thoughts and prayers. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glynriley Posted March 14, 2022 Report Share Posted March 14, 2022 4 minutes ago, Vespa Red said: Sadly, Mrs Red (Andrea) passed away peacefully in the early hours of Friday morning with me and our 3 boys surrounding her with the love that she always respected. We are broken but we made a promise to her that we would stay strong as a unit and somehow get through this. We have spent a very emotional weekend talking, reminiscing, crying and laughing because before the cancer, life had been beautiful. We will get through this, I am determined of that. It is what she would have wanted. Really sorry to hear that. I lost my Mum to cancer in January and know how your boys will be feeling. They’ll get you through it I’m sure. Stay strong mate. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 14, 2022 Report Share Posted March 14, 2022 7 hours ago, Vespa Red said: Sadly, Mrs Red (Andrea) passed away peacefully in the early hours of Friday morning with me and our 3 boys surrounding her with the love that she always respected. We are broken but we made a promise to her that we would stay strong as a unit and somehow get through this. We have spent a very emotional weekend talking, reminiscing, crying and laughing because before the cancer, life had been beautiful. We will get through this, I am determined of that. It is what she would have wanted. Sad to hear this, wishing you and the boys strength to come through this together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red-Robbo Posted March 15, 2022 Report Share Posted March 15, 2022 On 14/03/2022 at 07:48, Vespa Red said: Sadly, Mrs Red (Andrea) passed away peacefully in the early hours of Friday morning with me and our 3 boys surrounding her with the love that she always respected. We are broken but we made a promise to her that we would stay strong as a unit and somehow get through this. We have spent a very emotional weekend talking, reminiscing, crying and laughing because before the cancer, life had been beautiful. We will get through this, I am determined of that. It is what she would have wanted. Don't be afraid of emotion, VR. It sort of washes us of raw grief and lets us function. Facing it all as a close family unit and remembering everything Andrea was about and all those good times, will help you. On a personal level, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Cancer is so very cruel. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigTone Posted March 16, 2022 Report Share Posted March 16, 2022 On 14/03/2022 at 08:48, Vespa Red said: Sadly, Mrs Red (Andrea) passed away peacefully in the early hours of Friday morning with me and our 3 boys surrounding her with the love that she always respected. We are broken but we made a promise to her that we would stay strong as a unit and somehow get through this. We have spent a very emotional weekend talking, reminiscing, crying and laughing because before the cancer, life had been beautiful. We will get through this, I am determined of that. It is what she would have wanted. Sorry to hear your news. Thoughts with you all. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toffee dog Posted March 16, 2022 Report Share Posted March 16, 2022 On 14/03/2022 at 07:48, Vespa Red said: Sadly, Mrs Red (Andrea) passed away peacefully in the early hours of Friday morning with me and our 3 boys surrounding her with the love that she always respected. We are broken but we made a promise to her that we would stay strong as a unit and somehow get through this. We have spent a very emotional weekend talking, reminiscing, crying and laughing because before the cancer, life had been beautiful. We will get through this, I am determined of that. It is what she would have wanted. My thoughts are with you recently lost my partner who was hit by a van while walking along the pavement to the hairdressers. There is nothing anyone can say x 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattredrobin Posted March 22, 2022 Report Share Posted March 22, 2022 On 14/03/2022 at 07:48, Vespa Red said: Sadly, Mrs Red (Andrea) passed away peacefully in the early hours of Friday morning with me and our 3 boys surrounding her with the love that she always respected. We are broken but we made a promise to her that we would stay strong as a unit and somehow get through this. We have spent a very emotional weekend talking, reminiscing, crying and laughing because before the cancer, life had been beautiful. We will get through this, I am determined of that. It is what she would have wanted. so sorry for you're loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Go Again Charity Posted March 24, 2022 Report Share Posted March 24, 2022 Feel free to reach out to us at Go Again. We are a Bristol based Mental Health Charity. We provide free professional mental health support for people at all levels of sport including local junior, grassroots and non-league clubs. We also support people who are struggling after leaving clubs and academies. We are lucky to have the support of Frank Fielding who is helping us to mentor players who are going through a difficult time. We have a West Country Legends fundraising match on Wednesday 27th of April at Clevedon Town 19:30 kick off and is free entry. So far we have former City players such as Chris Weale, Scott Murray, Jamie McAllister and Lee Peacock playing. Lee Trundle is also hoping to make it. There will also be other former players involved who will be playing against a team of representatives from local charities and grassroots clubs. Feel free to come down. Drop us a message if we can help. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledAjax Posted March 29, 2022 Report Share Posted March 29, 2022 Want to share a podcast about mental health and football. Quickly Kevin, Will He Score? is a podcast all about 90's football, so for those of us of a certain generation it's a great listen. They've done an episode in association with the NHS. It's an interview with Tony Adams, and explores his career, his well-documented health issues, and his life in general. This week we're honoured to be joined by England and Arsenal legend Tony Adams to discuss his incredible career and his work beyond the game with the Sporting Chance charity. This very special bonus episode in association with the NHS is also to help raise awareness of a cause we believe strongly in - mental health and increasing the awareness of the support available. For those that feel they might need it, help is out there. NHS mental health service are a free, effective, and confidential way to treat common mental health issues. Help can be offered in a number of ways including in person, by video consultation, over the phone or as an online course. So, before we talk to Tony, we just want to let you know that if you need help with your mental health, you can refer yourself, or if you’d rather - a GP is always around to refer you. Go to; nhs.uk/help for more information. The below is a link to it, but if you search "Quickly Kevin" on any podcast app it will come up. https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5hY2FzdC5jb20vcHVibGljL3Nob3dzLzUyMTcyZTgyLWFkNzktNDZjYS05YzA1LWIxMTk1MzY1NWRjYQ/episode/NjI0MGU1Yjk5ZWMxMmEwMDEzMWUxYjZi?hl=en&ved=2ahUKEwji05zr6-v2AhVRSTABHWsMBEIQieUEegQIBRAF&ep=6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robin for life Posted March 29, 2022 Report Share Posted March 29, 2022 It's all well and good, but depression is awful and talking doesn't always help. I've had massive depression issues for years and tried to top myself a couple of times. I am depressed more than I am Okay. I don't have many friends, through my own doings, and ruined my life years ago. Don't look for pity but the reality is I hate living life so miserably, but I don't want to kill myself and don't want to bring more shame on my family by doing so. If people don't know what living with depression is like, I don't think they can even discuss it with people, its something you have to experience to understand. Only the other day I was DM'ing someone on Instagram, a 25yo girl who is successful, talented and always been there to talk to for me, and she was on about ended it all and needing to go to hospital to sort things. This is the crazy world we live in. I genuinely don't think I have any friends in the world, outside of family no one cares about me, I've messed up in life too many times to blame anyone but myself, but its life. But depression is a killer, I would say at least half the day I'm depressed, I've just got used to living with it. Sorry to those people who have lost loved ones, never nice. Thoughts to those suffering. 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Net Posted March 31, 2022 Report Share Posted March 31, 2022 On 29/03/2022 at 19:03, robin for life said: It's all well and good, but depression is awful and talking doesn't always help. I've had massive depression issues for years and tried to top myself a couple of times. I am depressed more than I am Okay. I don't have many friends, through my own doings, and ruined my life years ago. Don't look for pity but the reality is I hate living life so miserably, but I don't want to kill myself and don't want to bring more shame on my family by doing so. If people don't know what living with depression is like, I don't think they can even discuss it with people, its something you have to experience to understand. Only the other day I was DM'ing someone on Instagram, a 25yo girl who is successful, talented and always been there to talk to for me, and she was on about ended it all and needing to go to hospital to sort things. This is the crazy world we live in. I genuinely don't think I have any friends in the world, outside of family no one cares about me, I've messed up in life too many times to blame anyone but myself, but its life. But depression is a killer, I would say at least half the day I'm depressed, I've just got used to living with it. Sorry to those people who have lost loved ones, never nice. Thoughts to those suffering. You have explained depression very well. I still go to bed every night hoping that when I close my eyes, it will be for the last time. However, strange as it may sound, you have to be in the right frame of mind if you seriously intend to take your own life. At the moment I'm not in that place, not because there are good things in my life, but, well, just because, I suppose. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Batman Posted April 1, 2022 Report Share Posted April 1, 2022 To add to my pile of misery that April brings, today I was on my way back from taking my daughter out for the day when I witnessed a stabbing happen across the road. Had we not stopped to get her a chocolate bar, we may have been right next to it. Called the police and ambulance but people who were right there were able to give statements and things. Horribly, I felt completely desensitised by it because of what I've seen before. 16 year old boy just after 4pm in a city centre. School kids around, daylight, same street as a police station here in wolves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hxj Posted April 2, 2022 Report Share Posted April 2, 2022 (edited) Just a quick updste from me, six months since my beloved partner passed away. Life is difficult and always will be. The pain changes over time. Everyone on here has been brilliant. Work has been absolutely wonderful. I spent most of this week at Head Office. Every one of the senior management team passed me by and expressed delight at seeing me and hope for the futuire. I flew home tonight feeling that people cared. But most importantly a very, very junior member of my team lost their mother last week in tragic circumstances. We chatted about our losses and just now I had a message from their father thanking me. I'm in bits again. But life is better. For all of you in pain please use us all. Message or chat anytime, please! Edited April 2, 2022 by Hxj 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheltons Army Posted April 2, 2022 Report Share Posted April 2, 2022 11 hours ago, Hxj said: Just a quick updste from me, six months since my beloved partner passed away. Life is difficult and always will be. The pain changes over time. Everyone on here has been brilliant. Work has been absolutely wonderful. I spent most of this week at Head Office. Every one of the senior management team passed me by and expressed delight at seeing me and hope for the futuire. I flew home tonight feeling that people cared. But most importantly a very, very junior member of my team lost their mother last week in tragic circumstances. We chatted about our losses and just now I had a message from their father thanking me. I'm in bits again. But life is better. For all of you in pain please use us all. Message or chat anytime, please! Top man - great to hear that you’ve had some good support , and you still have the strength and empathy to help another / others. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattredrobin Posted April 5, 2022 Report Share Posted April 5, 2022 On 29/03/2022 at 18:38, ExiledAjax said: Want to share a podcast about mental health and football. Quickly Kevin, Will He Score? is a podcast all about 90's football, so for those of us of a certain generation it's a great listen. They've done an episode in association with the NHS. It's an interview with Tony Adams, and explores his career, his well-documented health issues, and his life in general. This week we're honoured to be joined by England and Arsenal legend Tony Adams to discuss his incredible career and his work beyond the game with the Sporting Chance charity. This very special bonus episode in association with the NHS is also to help raise awareness of a cause we believe strongly in - mental health and increasing the awareness of the support available. For those that feel they might need it, help is out there. NHS mental health service are a free, effective, and confidential way to treat common mental health issues. Help can be offered in a number of ways including in person, by video consultation, over the phone or as an online course. So, before we talk to Tony, we just want to let you know that if you need help with your mental health, you can refer yourself, or if you’d rather - a GP is always around to refer you. Go to; nhs.uk/help for more information. The below is a link to it, but if you search "Quickly Kevin" on any podcast app it will come up. https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5hY2FzdC5jb20vcHVibGljL3Nob3dzLzUyMTcyZTgyLWFkNzktNDZjYS05YzA1LWIxMTk1MzY1NWRjYQ/episode/NjI0MGU1Yjk5ZWMxMmEwMDEzMWUxYjZi?hl=en&ved=2ahUKEwji05zr6-v2AhVRSTABHWsMBEIQieUEegQIBRAF&ep=6 Thanks for this post will defo subscribe to this, as a sufferer of mental health it always helps to hear other peoples stories and journeys. I've finally got some counsilling coming up wich im hoping will help me. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledAjax Posted April 5, 2022 Report Share Posted April 5, 2022 16 minutes ago, Mattredrobin said: Thanks for this post will defo subscribe to this, as a sufferer of mental health it always helps to hear other peoples stories and journeys. I've finally got some counsilling coming up wich im hoping will help me. Awesome, good luck with the counseling. Will be getting some myself in the near future. Keep talking, keep thinking, keep learning more about yourself. And enjoy the podcast! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tre Bong Posted April 7, 2022 Report Share Posted April 7, 2022 On 07/01/2022 at 13:48, Midred said: Anyone heard anything from Tre Bong? I'm ok Thank you, still alive.. just... COYR 4 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Net Posted April 12, 2022 Report Share Posted April 12, 2022 On 11/04/2022 at 00:29, Tafkarmlf said: Took me all my strength to leave the house today. Last couple of weeks have been more batshit than usual with poison pen letters and the ex deciding to try and cancel the entire tenancy because she's utterly off on one. Add to that she's decided to move out Easter Saturday, wanted to invite half her family to do it and then has ignored small claims. It's a weeny bit stressful These next 5 days are going to be bloody torture Dig deep to find some inner strength if you can. Try to focus ahead to when she's moved out, and hopefully things may be less stressful for you. Tough times indeed - take care, and reach out if you need to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattredrobin Posted April 23, 2022 Report Share Posted April 23, 2022 On 13/04/2022 at 07:40, Tafkarmlf said: Thanks lovely. My head is actually up my arse. She's due round to disconnect her washing machine tonight and I need chaperones to keep me safe from her... When I said things were messed up they're truly on a different level of bizarre. All communications go through her boss or her aunt, and can arrive at any time. The landlord rang me when she tried to cancel the entire tenancy, not just her coming off it, whilst he'd just stepped off a plane coming back from holiday, seriously. I've had random texts off people claiming to be someone she knows and pretty much everything in between. I'm trying to keep busy this week, everything is up in the air at home too, so not helpful as I'm temping and had two job offers but only inital ones rather than actual and one of those changed yesterday from permenant to six months. It's a bit stressful as you'd imagine. Coffee is my friend and will see what happens next. Tough times......I can relate to having an ex like that ...though not on any scale you're describing here, she sounds very unpredictable I hope somewhere in the future you can get some peace from it.sadly mine will always be in my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattredrobin Posted April 23, 2022 Report Share Posted April 23, 2022 2 hours ago, Tafkarmlf said: Cheers love, it got more off the scale last weekend, police involved, again. I'm sorry that you have to go through that too. Oh dear, sounds very hectic, my ex is fine now no dramas but we share a son so still have to speak with her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattredrobin Posted April 23, 2022 Report Share Posted April 23, 2022 6 hours ago, Tafkarmlf said: I'm glad things have calmed down. I've just small claims and two potential court cases to go, plus sort the rest of their stuff to sort being picked up. Been a bit crazy last 6 months. Finally getting the house how I want it though. #smallwins. Just little steps at the time and before you know it you will be all sorted and happy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Net Posted April 26, 2022 Report Share Posted April 26, 2022 On 23/04/2022 at 14:41, Tafkarmlf said: I'm glad things have calmed down. I've just small claims and two potential court cases to go, plus sort the rest of their stuff to sort being picked up. Been a bit crazy last 6 months. Finally getting the house how I want it though. #smallwins. Sorry to read that there was drama. I hope that you can begin to enjoy the house now, and that this will help with your stress levels Stay strong, eventually it will all be sorted - hold that thought! Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 26, 2022 Report Share Posted April 26, 2022 (edited) Sunshine after the rain? after a rectal c tumor removed 3 years ago and following 4monthly MRI, CT, Ultrasound, blood tests all of which were clear, today have been signed off consultants care. No guarantee some other form of cancer wont rear its head sometime in the future but please ANY sign of blood/pain down there GET IT CHECKED OUT do not ignore it, the longer you do the higher price you could pay. I must thank the doctor (who has now himself passed away) who referred me to the hospital and the consultant who did the "Tems op" with no visible cuts, Do not put it off till tomorrow/next week it could be too late by then. Edited April 26, 2022 by gl2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slacker Posted April 26, 2022 Report Share Posted April 26, 2022 Congratulations mate.Hope you remain clear and healthy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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