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12 hours ago, gl2 said:

What would YOU have done?

 1, go to your mothers funeral who died of covid/dementia in a city 30miles away or

2, take your wife to hospital 10miles away for an op to try and save her eye ball which she smashed falling onto a loo brush in bathroom, to be there for her, the op was unsuccessfull and she has lost her sight in one eye and has not driven since.

both of the above were on the same day at the same time.

 I picked 2, and would do so every time, the cost since, 2years ago has been my brother and 2 sisters have not spoken since. There loss imo i thought of mum while waiting at the hospital but out cast since that day, would anyone have chosen 1,??

All this just after my cancer op and all through covid.

2. All day long.

in that situation, I know my mum would want me to go for number 2 as well.

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22 hours ago, gl2 said:

What would YOU have done?

 1, go to your mothers funeral who died of covid/dementia in a city 30miles away or

2, take your wife to hospital 10miles away for an op to try and save her eye ball which she smashed falling onto a loo brush in bathroom, to be there for her, the op was unsuccessfull and she has lost her sight in one eye and has not driven since.

both of the above were on the same day at the same time.

 I picked 2, and would do so every time, the cost since, 2years ago has been my brother and 2 sisters have not spoken since. There loss imo i thought of mum while waiting at the hospital but out cast since that day, would anyone have chosen 1,??

All this just after my cancer op and all through covid.

2 wins every time

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On 26/07/2022 at 13:19, The Coach said:

Well, thought I'd share an update on this one. If you can't laugh, then you'll cry. We actually seen each other on a night out a few weeks ago in what was a very small bar (only just bigger than a micro pub literally). I decided to stay clear and keep my distance. Just in case she decided to cause a scene. Told my friend who I was with I'm going to stay by the bar. My friend decided to go for a boogie in it's very small dance area bit. Where she and her friend were. Bearing in mind my friend does not know her or knew what she looked like. She decided to tap him on the shoulder and tell him to **** off and for me to go also. My friend came back quite shocked. Told him to go enjoy himself and ignore her as she has no right.

Skip a long story short, come 0100 at closure of this bar she decided to kick off at me and get quite vicious. Bearing in mind I haven't looked at her, or been near her for the duration. Still kept my cool and did not lower myself to her behaviour. Bearing in mind I have done absolutely nothing wrong. My friend stuck up for me and gave her a few home truths from what he seen that night (telling her he's 10 times the person you are and you didn't deserve him) Could have kissed him at this point! She then lunged for him and was about to punch him before her friend stepped in and stopped her (who's actually a nice girl and I have no issue with). My ex even then told her own friend to **** off and she stormed off. This is behaviour you'd expect from people when they've had one too many, but this was her completely sober.

By the time I got home, she then decided to message me via FB and then tried to blame the whole ordeal on me. This is where I got frustrated with myself as I lowered myself to her level and we ended up in a slanging match via FB for the next 2 hours. By this point it was 0430 and I was so angry I couldn't sleep. 

I'm so grateful things did not work out. My life would have been such a misery all because of her. The good thing is, the people who are even friends with her know what she is like and have all informed me you can do and deserve a lot better. I just find it absolutely baffling she blames everyone else for everything and believes she isn't the issue, or at least part of it. From what I've been told today. She's been having digs at me all weekend via social media without name dropping me, and also having a pop at my mum. Who was nothing but sweet and caring for her. Even helped prepped her for her new job.

Sorry for the long rant, but it's totally sucked the life out of me. I honesty can't believe people can be this toxic and carry so much hate and negativity in life. I'm taking this as a lucky escape. As I think I am ex boyfriend number 8 or so!

This is all to familiar but we have a child so we have to keep the conversation. Hold Your head up high and continue to be a superior person. Don't lower yourself to the depths of the sewer where vermin reside. 

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On 06/08/2022 at 00:44, Mr Popodopolous said:

I have a bit of a tale of woe but dunno- still a bit raw for one and dunno if it's a little self-indulgent for this thread but it has without doubt caused me ups and downs since mid June or so.

You’ve made a start @Mr Popodopolous by letting us know (even if not ready to share details at this moment in time). That itself is a step in the right direction 

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On 31/07/2022 at 20:25, reddoh said:

2 wins every time

Certainly but a high price to pay now with no contact at all, from brother or sisters, sad life is so short; so we go on one step at a time; have my wife for 45yrs now a daughter and son and a gorgous grand-daughter and son 5 and 7yrs. meanwhile the tests continue with an endoscopy in a fortnight, just to see if the dreaded big C has stayed away.

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On 28/07/2022 at 22:32, Tafkarmlf said:

Update from me too. 

Sending strength out there to those who need it. 

After 2 attempts at my own life this year because of what happened with my ex, I'm stable, in recovery and embarking on a new chapter in life. 

The Police are reinvestigating my case after I'd submitted even more evidence. 

I've got long courses of counselling to go through to recover from all the abuse I suffered from. 

The small claims case has also been resubmitted and went uncontested. 

She's off the lease, all her stuff has gone and the debt collection letters  for her are finally slowly stopping 

I've a new job, just passed probation 

Hopefully can move on now 

Slight update again. I've a new partner.<3 ❤️ ❤️

Friendship into relationship dealio.

Unexpected and no pressure, drama or expectations. If it works then yay, if it doesn't it doesn't.

They know everything about what's going on, gone on and what's happening with everything. 

Already very different, taking each day as it comes 

Start the next rounds of counselling and the rest this week too. 

This year definitely unbelievable. 

 

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On 14/08/2022 at 07:21, Tafkarmlf said:

Slight update again. I've a new partner.<3 ❤️ ❤️

Friendship into relationship dealio.

Unexpected and no pressure, drama or expectations. If it works then yay, if it doesn't it doesn't.

They know everything about what's going on, gone on and what's happening with everything. 

Already very different, taking each day as it comes 

Start the next rounds of counselling and the rest this week too. 

This year definitely unbelievable. 

 

Wishing you all the best.

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