Never feel alone, It's good to talk !!

[Waffleflap]

54 minutes ago, Nogbad the Bad said:

Weather on Dartmoor at the weekend looks really good.

Have a great time!

Unfortunately I'm only doing the one night on Friday and it's a bit cooler. Kind of glad cause ill boil in me tent

 

28 minutes ago, RalphMilnesLeftFoot said:

Have a great time, just remember to let people know where your going, your proposed return time and  what to do if you miss any check ins. 

 

Thanks. Yeah, I've been doing my wife's head in about it for months. She knows everything about it :laugh:

[redysteadygo]

7 hours ago, Waffleflap said:

As a person who struggles with my mental health on a daily basis, I have taken upon myself to get out more and go for walks etc. I have recently been hooked on watching wild camping videos on YouTube and it has inspired me to do the same. It really has lifted my spirits

This Friday I will be doing my first solo wild camp on dartmoor. Hopefully the peace and quiet and the lovely views will be great for the mind.  

Hope you're all good out there

Have a great trip but don't take your Black Mountains map instead of the Dartmoor one like I once did! Oh, forgot about all the modern gizzmos these days.

When asked what I enjoy most about walking Dartmoor I always reply " the helicopter ride home".

7 hours ago, Waffleflap said:

As a person who struggles with my mental health on a daily basis, I have taken upon myself to get out more and go for walks etc. I have recently been hooked on watching wild camping videos on YouTube and it has inspired me to do the same. It really has lifted my spirits

This Friday I will be doing my first solo wild camp on dartmoor. Hopefully the peace and quiet and the lovely views will be great for the mind.  

Hope you're all good out there

Have a great trip but don't take your Black Mountains map instead of the Dartmoor one like I once did! Oh, forgot about all the modern gizzmos these days.

When asked what I enjoy most about walking Dartmoor I always reply " the helicopter ride home".

[OneTeamInBristol]

7 hours ago, Waffleflap said:

As a person who struggles with my mental health on a daily basis, I have taken upon myself to get out more and go for walks etc. I have recently been hooked on watching wild camping videos on YouTube and it has inspired me to do the same. It really has lifted my spirits

This Friday I will be doing my first solo wild camp on dartmoor. Hopefully the peace and quiet and the lovely views will be great for the mind.  

Hope you're all good out there

I have also become obsessed recently with these kind of videos and am keen to try it out for myself as well! 

I'm sure you're aware of Steve Wallis (Camping with Steve) he does stealth camping in Canada, there's also a localish guy from Salisbury that's doing roundabout wild camps  no where near the size of channel that Steve Wallis is but still enjoyable. 

Enjoy your attempt on Dartmoor.

[Waffleflap]

1 hour ago, redysteadygo said:

Have a great trip but don't take your Black Mountains map instead of the Dartmoor one like I once did! Oh, forgot about all the modern gizzmos these days.

When asked what I enjoy most about walking Dartmoor I always reply " the helicopter ride home".

Have a great trip but don't take your Black Mountains map instead of the Dartmoor one like I once did! Oh, forgot about all the modern gizzmos these days.

When asked what I enjoy most about walking Dartmoor I always reply " the helicopter ride home".

I'm literally parking in Merrivale and camping at Great mis tor. Hopefully even I can't mess that up. I did check to see if the army were about tomorrow but thankfully they're not 

[Waffleflap]

1 hour ago, OneTeamInBristol said:

I have also become obsessed recently with these kind of videos and am keen to try it out for myself as well! 

I'm sure you're aware of Steve Wallis (Camping with Steve) he does stealth camping in Canada, there's also a localish guy from Salisbury that's doing roundabout wild camps  no where near the size of channel that Steve Wallis is but still enjoyable. 

Enjoy your attempt on Dartmoor.

Funny you should say that. I watched the roundabout lad last night. Fair play to him. Mental. I  follow summit or nothing and hazeoutdoors which were the ones that got me right into it. Seems like everyone is doing it . 

I'll do the further stuff when I got someone with me just incase 

[Lanterne Rouge]

9 hours ago, Waffleflap said:

Cheers Tone. A bit apprehensive but excited at the same time. 

I live on Dartmoor.

Get off my laaaaaand...............................

Seriously mate, all the best and enjoy it - it`s God`s own country.

[reddoh]

if you meet two guys with Banjo's run like Forest

[Waffleflap]

I'm here. What a place. So foggy for a couple of hours but it's nice and clear now. Just some bleating lambs to deal with. Glad I'm here to be fair . 

[BigTone]

16 minutes ago, Waffleflap said:

I'm here. What a place. So foggy for a couple of hours but it's nice and clear now. Just some bleating lambs to deal with. Glad I'm here to be fair . 

Looks fab mate. Enjoy your night of solitude and bbq lamb for dins.

[Lanterne Rouge]

1 hour ago, Waffleflap said:

I'm here. What a place. So foggy for a couple of hours but it's nice and clear now. Just some bleating lambs to deal with. Glad I'm here to be fair . 

Don`t you go worrying them sheep mind.

You`re not Welsh.

[phantom]

THE ROBINS FOUNDATION TACKLE LONELINESS

FRIDAY, JUNE 18TH 2021

This week people and organisations have come together to raise awareness for loneliness.

It's no surprise that this past year has left a lot of people feeling lonely and isolated. As socialising was put on hold, those who had previously relied on attending weekly sessions for their social interactions really struggled. This was very much the case for some of the players of the Bristol City Walking Football team.

When Covid-19 first hit back in March 2020 and sessions had to stop Lee Gillett - the Health and Well-being Lead at the Robins Foundation was conscious that some of the elderly players in the walking football team would find it difficult.

To tackle this Lee would call to check in on players who lived alone for a chat and to make sure they had everything they needed. Lee would also knock on the player's doors that lived locally to him, for a chat and to drop off sport's equipment so players were able to stay active at home.

For many of the players walking football means a lot more than just meeting up with friends and playing football, as for some it is the only social interaction they have. Pre-covid the players would stay after sessions had finished, for a cup of tea and coffee to catch up and check-in with one another. As a team, they would also have quiz nights and organise social events throughout the year. These formed friendships and solid support group has kept many of the players going when they were struggling with their own mental health issues or going through difficult periods of their lives.

Lee Gillett said, "Our walking football sessions are much more than just a kick about, we have created a team spirit where we support each other on and off the pitch."

To get involved and join the walking football team, feel free to come to the sessions below. 

• Tuesday’s at Imperial Sports Ground South Bristol, BS14 9EA. 10:30am - 11:30am. Cost: £4 (Outdoors)
• Thursday’s at Imperial Sports Ground South Bristol, BS14 9EA. 10:30am - 11:30am. Cost: £4  (Outdoors)

Should you require any additional information on these sessions, please contact the Robins Foundation on 0117 963 0636 or email: lee.gillett@bcfc.co.uk

If you or anyone you know feels lonely or struggling please contact Samaritans

Call: 116 123

Email: jo@samaritans.org

[Mattredrobin]

Hey hard post for me to write but i've only just seen this page, nice to know that i can reach out to the city community, i'm suffering with depression at the moment lots of different things going on one day im fine then i'm struggling for weeks, hoping once we get back to a routine of city matches this will help me lots, sending love and thoughts to anyone going through similar, and as im sure many of you have said before if anyone needs to talk about anything no matter how trivial or silly it may seem to them please drop me a message it may even help me to know there a fellow reds out there that understand

[In the Net]

On 06/07/2021 at 07:54, Mattredrobin said:

Hey hard post for me to write but i've only just seen this page, nice to know that i can reach out to the city community, i'm suffering with depression at the moment lots of different things going on one day im fine then i'm struggling for weeks, hoping once we get back to a routine of city matches this will help me lots, sending love and thoughts to anyone going through similar, and as im sure many of you have said before if anyone needs to talk about anything no matter how trivial or silly it may seem to them please drop me a message it may even help me to know there a fellow reds out there that understand

Sorry to hear that you're struggling at the moment.  I know where you're coming from, I have occasional days when I think "I'm cured", then the next day I'm back at the bottom of the dark pit.  Mental health transcends football colours, and I've been lucky enough to receive good advice and support on here.  Keep going mate, one day at a time, and try not to dwell on the bad ones too much.  Take care. 

[phantom]

[phantom]

[phantom]

[The Batman]

I thought this would be the final update. My divorce came through last week. Decree absolute granted and its all finalised..... Glorious 

.... 

.... 

And then it has come out that her relationship and adultery started months before the date she originally gave me when I found out. I based my divorce statement in good faith that it started when she told me and I alluded to comments she made in a whatsapp conversation we had, she then signed the paperwork saying that it was all true, but it's now come out that she lied.... Just don't understand why she'd continue to lie about it, especially on legal documentation. Perjury??? We shall see. 

[BigTone]

1 hour ago, The Batman said:

I thought this would be the final update. My divorce came through last week. Decree absolute granted and its all finalised..... Glorious 

.... 

.... 

And then it has come out that her relationship and adultery started months before the date she originally gave me when I found out. I based my divorce statement in good faith that it started when she told me and I alluded to comments she made in a whatsapp conversation we had, she then signed the paperwork saying that it was all true, but it's now come out that she lied.... Just don't understand why she'd continue to lie about it, especially on legal documentation. Perjury??? We shall see. 

My ex hid money in another bank account that she failed to reveal in her financial disclosure. Made a huge difference when the house was divided up though. Karma.

[City oz]

2 minutes ago, BigTone said:

My ex hid money in another bank account that she failed to reveal in her financial disclosure. Made a huge difference when the house was divided up though. Karma.

You always bring a smirk to my face Big Tone when I read your posts. Your quick witted humour is great. Keep up the good work and I know you are not going through some great times at the moment.

[BigTone]

9 minutes ago, City oz said:

You always bring a smirk to my face Big Tone when I read your posts. Your quick witted humour is great. Keep up the good work and I know you are not going through some great times at the moment.

Cheers Oz

No, it's been a pretty crap year for me as is well documented on here. However, I have always maintained a phone call can change your life in a minute.

Basically I retired back in March 2020 which suited me what with covid and issues with my Mum & Wife. Now with Mum having passed and Wife now on the road to recovery my main issue has been boredom. I am 62 years old and my brain needs to be stimulated. Not by going fishing, gardening or shopping but by things that make me think. 

To cut a short story long I have taken up the offer of a position with a major London council working on the supply of new social housing. From work I've done in the past this will be easy and i can split my time between here and London. Start next Monday and just can't wait.

This will certainly boost my mental wellbeing rather than just sitting and dwelling on things. It's my way of pulling myself together and saying "bollox to all this".

It should work out but equally it may not. Either way I've given it a go.

Strangely some business associates who dropped me like a stinky turd during the dark times are now all back in contact wanting to meet up. On my conditions only the lot of them.

Conversely some others were fantastic throughout and we will certainly continue the friendships on both a business and personal level.

I suppose the point I am trying to make is that sometimes we need to look at ourselves and get through the difficult times. Not easy i understand. As I said, some will drop you but true friends will stand with you. It is only them I want in my life.

[CheddarReds]

I don't suppose anyone has any tips with regards to finding new employment?

The staff at my level in my current employment have been treated pretty poorly over the last 18 months and we have poor employment terms as it is. I've been trying to find a new job but find it so difficult. The combination of these two things is definitely starting to take its toll on my mental health.

[Cobbsoldun]

1 hour ago, CheddarReds said:

I don't suppose anyone has any tips with regards to finding new employment?

The staff at my level in my current employment have been treated pretty poorly over the last 18 months and we have poor employment terms as it is. I've been trying to find a new job but find it so difficult. The combination of these two things is definitely starting to take its toll on my mental health.

The first thing I did was sign up to Indeed and all the other job sites...and made sure my CV was searchable. I then made sure I got registered with all the agencies out there....It works trust me!

[The Batman]

2 hours ago, CheddarReds said:

I don't suppose anyone has any tips with regards to finding new employment?

The staff at my level in my current employment have been treated pretty poorly over the last 18 months and we have poor employment terms as it is. I've been trying to find a new job but find it so difficult. The combination of these two things is definitely starting to take its toll on my mental health.

Where are you based? 

35 minutes ago, Cobbsoldun said:

The first thing I did was sign up to Indeed and all the other job sites...and made sure my CV was searchable. I then made sure I got registered with all the agencies out there....It works trust me!

A good idea in theory but it went against me once. May not for others. 

When I was being made redundant I did what you suggested. But 2 different agencies got me interviews with 2 different teams of the same company. Needless to say, nobody was very happy with me but I didn't know they were for the same company as they didn't say who the job was for on either of them. 

But I never gave up hope and I had a few mins spare one day and found a role which I thought would be a perfect fit for me, still there now and I'm doing great and I'm appreciated by my bosses. At the time I was so scared that I wouldn't get a job because my wife wasn't working and we had a newborn and the redundancy was just more of an added pressure. This was also around the time of the court case that some of you will be aware of. They made me redundant a week before the trial started. I was sure to thank them on my last day for being so thoughtful. 

[BigTone]

17 hours ago, CheddarReds said:

I don't suppose anyone has any tips with regards to finding new employment?

The staff at my level in my current employment have been treated pretty poorly over the last 18 months and we have poor employment terms as it is. I've been trying to find a new job but find it so difficult. The combination of these two things is definitely starting to take its toll on my mental health.

What is your line of work ?

[phantom]

[CheddarReds]

@BigTone @Cobbsoldun @The Batman thanks for getting back to me. I've updated my linkedin and got the CV out there a bit more with recruitment websites. 

I'm living and working in Cardiff at the moment.

I'm working on a financial project as a contractor and it's my first full time role after university. My previous education and work experience has been in sport. I'm not sure exactly what I want to do but I'm quite interested by a role doing some sort of research/ analyst/ evaluation.  

[BigTone]

On 09/08/2021 at 20:14, CheddarReds said:

I don't suppose anyone has any tips with regards to finding new employment?

The staff at my level in my current employment have been treated pretty poorly over the last 18 months and we have poor employment terms as it is. I've been trying to find a new job but find it so difficult. The combination of these two things is definitely starting to take its toll on my mental health.

The problem with Indeed, CVLibrary & Trovit etc is that the jobs they advertise do not always exist. It is just a ploy to get you to register your details on their website. It is hard to know which way to go but at some point one agency will stand out as being genuine. It can take some time to get to this but just be patient. The other problem is that the recruiter does not understand exactly what it is you do or want to do. I am a Quantity Surveyor and sometimes their response just leaves me speechless as to their idea of what I actually do. 

Try and find an agency that specialises in your line of work is the best advice. Not always easy I understand.

Hang in there and good luck.

Tony

 

[Jerseybean]

[Jerseybean]

Fellow Reds might be interested in the book I’m currently reading which is written by my ex-colleague and good friend Dr Bill Saunders.  It is called ‘What happened? What mental health is really about’ rather colourful language in places but the content is spot-on IMO and could be useful to anybody interested in how childhood trauma has impacted their adulthood. Bill is a clinical psychologist, now in his 70’s, and writes from experience and with passion. 

ISBN: 9780645135374 Available from KMD books, https://www.kmdbooks.com/

[Tre Bong]

I'm done...really done...sorry guys and gals but i don't want to live in this ****** up world any more. I have set a date on the 23rd (my 43rd birthday), i have the BBQ  and the vodka ready. 

****

YOU 

ALL

[Mrs Miggins Pie Shop]

Hello,

I’m sorry you’re feeling so low, whatever you’re going through please believe that it may, with time pass. 

Please do phone the Samaritans, just a call with someone who will listen to your troubles and worries.

116 123

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/talk-us-phone/

[In the Net]

3 hours ago, Tre Bong said:

I'm done...really done...sorry guys and gals but i don't want to live in this ****** up world any more. I have set a date on the 23rd (my 43rd birthday), i have the BBQ  and the vodka ready. 

****

YOU 

ALL

Please try and talk things through with somebody, be that via the Samaritans, MIND, or a trusted friend.  I made the mistake of keeping my negative feelings within my own head, where they multiply and magnify.  We can't change the world, however, we can make small changes within our own lives, which is a start.  Please reach out to somebody, just expressing your thoughts out loud, and sharing, can offer some relief.  Take care. 

[BigTone]

7 hours ago, Tre Bong said:

I'm done...really done...sorry guys and gals but i don't want to live in this ****** up world any more. I have set a date on the 23rd (my 43rd birthday), i have the BBQ  and the vodka ready. 

****

YOU 

ALL

Take up the advice given. It could easily turn your world back into a positive outlook.

[bpexile]

On 09/08/2021 at 21:12, BigTone said:

Cheers Oz

No, it's been a pretty crap year for me as is well documented on here. However, I have always maintained a phone call can change your life in a minute.

Basically I retired back in March 2020 which suited me what with covid and issues with my Mum & Wife. Now with Mum having passed and Wife now on the road to recovery my main issue has been boredom. I am 62 years old and my brain needs to be stimulated. Not by going fishing, gardening or shopping but by things that make me think. 

To cut a short story long I have taken up the offer of a position with a major London council working on the supply of new social housing. From work I've done in the past this will be easy and i can split my time between here and London. Start next Monday and just can't wait.

This will certainly boost my mental wellbeing rather than just sitting and dwelling on things. It's my way of pulling myself together and saying "bollox to all this".

It should work out but equally it may not. Either way I've given it a go.

Strangely some business associates who dropped me like a stinky turd during the dark times are now all back in contact wanting to meet up. On my conditions only the lot of them.

Conversely some others were fantastic throughout and we will certainly continue the friendships on both a business and personal level.

I suppose the point I am trying to make is that sometimes we need to look at ourselves and get through the difficult times. Not easy i understand. As I said, some will drop you but true friends will stand with you. It is only them I want in my life.

Only just picked up on this Tone, its funny how many of us in our working life wish we were retired, then when it happens wish we were back working. I haven't worked for 20yrs due to injury (I'm now 73) & the early years were hell. Grandchildren playing sport, photography & fishing have been enormously helpful. Also try to keep out the way of "The War Office" keeps me active.

Glad you've found something to help you Tone, stay safe mate.

[City Rocker]

@Tre Bong please look here: 

https://www.wetalkclub.com/

Founded in Bristol a couple of years ago, it's spread all around the UK and beyond. 

"Talk Club is a Male Mental Fitness Movement. 

It’s a talking and listening club for men.  

It’s a support network for ways to keep mentally fit. 

It’s a community of men looking after each other.

It’s here to remind all men that they are not alone, that other men feel exactly the same way they do, and if we share our feelings we can become mentally strong. 

Together we can change the way we look after our mental health and end suicide."

[oldstandrobin]

On 15/08/2021 at 07:14, Tre Bong said:

I'm done...really done...sorry guys and gals but i don't want to live in this ****** up world any more. I have set a date on the 23rd (my 43rd birthday), i have the BBQ  and the vodka ready. 

****

YOU 

ALL

Please dont mate, I had a breakdown at 45. I am now going through a sh*tter at 70. My plans came to nothing in life but I will get through it, so will you, 

[BigTone]

Just now, BigTone said:

First week back at the coalface and I must say I feel better much better in myself already. Back in France earlier than I thought but now with 6 projects to run so looking forward to getting stuck in again.

Did laugh at the Councils policy regarding the lifts. It's like being on the naughty step !!

 

[Jerseybean]

[littlered]

Having a bit of a rubbish time at the moment. Have just gone from seeing loads of friends every day to moving back to Bristol and not having many friends here at all. I'm waiting to start a new job at the moment so I'm sat around at home doing nothing all day. I know it's just a big change that I need to get used to but it's really hit home now that I have a spare ticket for Cardiff and can't find a single person to go with!! Just wanted to have a little vent, hope you're all doing okay x

[ExiledAjax]

21 hours ago, littlered said:

Having a bit of a rubbish time at the moment. Have just gone from seeing loads of friends every day to moving back to Bristol and not having many friends here at all. I'm waiting to start a new job at the moment so I'm sat around at home doing nothing all day. I know it's just a big change that I need to get used to but it's really hit home now that I have a spare ticket for Cardiff and can't find a single person to go with!! Just wanted to have a little vent, hope you're all doing okay x

Sorry to hear that. I'm going through a similar bout of loneliness myself. Currently I'm living on my own in a far flung corner of the world. My wife and 3 month old son are back in the UK visiting family...and that's also where all my family and real, old, friends are. It's been 18 months since I saw 95% of those people as well - thanks to Covid.

I have a few friends here but people you've known for a year or two never really compare to those you've known for 20 years, or your family.

I'm joining my wife and son in the UK in 3 weeks' time, but this weekend I struggled a bit with feeling pretty disconnected from the world. Like you I was mostly sat around the flat all day doing not very much. Honestly, reading the thread about Nagy's homesickness has hurt a little bit as well.

I'm jealous of you even being able to go to the Cardiff game!

[ExiledAjax]

On 15/08/2021 at 01:14, Tre Bong said:

I'm done...really done...sorry guys and gals but i don't want to live in this ****** up world any more. I have set a date on the 23rd (my 43rd birthday), i have the BBQ  and the vodka ready. 

****

YOU 

ALL

Today is the 23rd. Happy Birthday to you. 

Please let us know that you decided to do something else with this great day. I'm thinking of you today.

[littlered]

2 hours ago, ExiledAjax said:

Sorry to hear that. I'm going through a similar bout of loneliness myself. Currently I'm living on my own in a far flung corner of the world. My wife and 3 month old son are back in the UK visiting family...and that's also where all my family and real, old, friends are. It's been 18 months since I saw 95% of those people as well - thanks to Covid.

I have a few friends here but people you've known for a year or two never really compare to those you've known for 20 years, or your family.

I'm joining my wife and son in the UK in 3 weeks' time, but this weekend I struggled a bit with feeling pretty disconnected from the world. Like you I was mostly sat around the flat all day doing not very much. Honestly, reading the thread about Nagy's homesickness has hurt a little bit as well.

I'm jealous of you even being able to go to the Cardiff game!

Covid has been difficult and has isolated a lot of people, I was very lucky to be living with family and friends throughout so I can't begin to imagine how it's been for you! 

I hope that being able to join your wife and son gives you something to look forward to. I do think it's lovely that there's a thread like this for people struggling with things. I hope you're doing okay!

I've not decided if I'm going to go alone yet or sell the tickets! Although not sure watching us get slapped around by Flint will help with the low mood! 

[ExiledAjax]

20 minutes ago, littlered said:

Covid has been difficult and has isolated a lot of people, I was very lucky to be living with family and friends throughout so I can't begin to imagine how it's been for you! 

I hope that being able to join your wife and son gives you something to look forward to. I do think it's lovely that there's a thread like this for people struggling with things. I hope you're doing okay!

I've not decided if I'm going to go alone yet or sell the tickets! Although not sure watching us get slapped around by Flint will help with the low mood! 

Thanks. I'm ok, I'll see them all in a few weeks - I am in the UK fro nearly two months so should be able to catch up with everyone.

My experience of moving to a new place (or back to an old one in your case) is that in those first 6 months or so you just say "yes" to everyone and every opportunity that comes your way. You might have the odd awful dinner, or bad date, or rubbish away day - but you'll make many more friends than you would sitting in your flat saying "no". Therefore, my advice - and feel free to ignore it - is to go. Go with an open mind and, if you're comfortable with it, then feel free to approach/talk to fellow City fans at the game, especially once you're in your seat. Most humans will reciprocate a friendly chat.

I've done solo away days many times before. I don't actually have many City supporting mates so, especially when I lived in London, I'd quite often go on my own to the less fashionable grounds. I could get a mate to come to Fulham...but weirdly no one fancied Charlton or Leyton Orient quite as much. I won't lie and tell you I've made life-long friends, but I have had many great conversations, and learned a lot about our varied fanbase.

By the time our third goal flies in you'll all be hugging each other anyway.

Edited August 23, 2021 by ExiledAjax

[littlered]

1 hour ago, ExiledAjax said:

Thanks. I'm ok, I'll see them all in a few weeks - I am in the UK fro nearly two months so should be able to catch up with everyone.

My experience of moving to a new place (or back to an old one in your case) is that in those first 6 months or so you just say "yes" to everyone and every opportunity that comes your way. You might have the odd awful dinner, or bad date, or rubbish away day - but you'll make many more friends than you would sitting in your flat saying "no". Therefore, my advice - and feel free to ignore it - is to go. Go with an open mind and, if you're comfortable with it, then feel free to approach/talk to fellow City fans at the game, especially once you're in your seat. Most humans will reciprocate a friendly chat.

I've done solo away days many times before. I don't actually have many City supporting mates so, especially when I lived in London, I'd quite often go on my own to the less fashionable grounds. I could get a mate to come to Fulham...but weirdly no one fancied Charlton or Leyton Orient quite as much. I won't lie and tell you I've made life-long friends, but I have had many great conversations, and learned a lot about our varied fanbase.

By the time our third goal flies in you'll all be hugging each other anyway.

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it! Think I will follow your advice and just go for it. Plus its been long enough since a cardiff away game, be silly to miss it!

[Jerseybean]

[Maesknoll Red]

On 12/08/2021 at 17:25, BigTone said:

I am a Quantity Surveyor and sometimes their response just leaves me speechless as to their idea of what I actually do. 

 

How hard is to understand you survey quantities…..

[BigTone]

57 minutes ago, Maesknoll Red said:

How hard is to understand you survey quantities…..

Exactly !! .......I do ?

[BigTone]

21 hours ago, ExiledAjax said:

 

By the time our third goal flies in you'll all be hugging each other anyway.

In disbelief

[phantom]

[cidered abroad]

On 22/08/2021 at 19:33, littlered said:

Having a bit of a rubbish time at the moment. Have just gone from seeing loads of friends every day to moving back to Bristol and not having many friends here at all. I'm waiting to start a new job at the moment so I'm sat around at home doing nothing all day. I know it's just a big change that I need to get used to but it's really hit home now that I have a spare ticket for Cardiff and can't find a single person to go with!! Just wanted to have a little vent, hope you're all doing okay x

@littlered

The wonderful thing that following a football, or rugby, team is that everyone at the game is a potential friend.

My father always told me while I was young that "He/Her that travels alone, travels fastest". In other words, don't wait for someone to go with you as while you travel, you meet people.

My best example with reference to City goes back to August 1959. I was 16 and went on my own by train to Sheffield leaving Temple Meads at 1 am in night. To change trains for Scunthorpe meant a ten minute walk to a different station and in that ten minutes, I met a lifelong friend. His name Bob Fricker. His friendship introduced me to many other young City fans who lived in South Bristol, I lived in Filton, including a very young Chris Garland.

Inevitability, like ships in the night, you may lose them as close friends, but with a football club, you keep them and add others.

So don't be afraid to go on your own. The Liverpool anthem says it all. "You'll never walk alone".

PS. Did you enjoy the win ?

Edited August 31, 2021 by cidered abroad

[Jerseybean]

[Jerseybean]

Advice. We are bombarded with it every day - from magazines and adverts to well-meaning friends and colleagues. But only very rarely do we find advice that is life-changing. Three pieces of advice stand out as having a particularly positive and lasting impact on my life.

1 To heal your body, sort your head out first. Our mental health has a far bigger impact on our physical health than most of us - including the mainstream medical profession - have yet realised.

2 For big life choices, listen to your heart more than your head. When a change or opportunity comes up just ask - which of these things fills me with most energy and enthusiasm? Then choose to do that thing, whatever it is.

3 Spend more time with people you love, doing things you care about. Just take a moment to imagine that you are nearing the end of your life. Now, picture what that would be like and how you would feel looking back over all the highs and lows; the achievements and sorrows. Then ask yourself: "What advice would your future self give you about what really matters now?"

So my third piece of life-changing advice follows from having done this. It is, spend more time with people you love, doing things you care about. It is too easy to become increasingly consumed by work meaning there simply is not enough for your family.

[PHILINFRANCE]

On 31/08/2021 at 09:48, cidered abroad said:

@littlered

The wonderful thing that following a football, or rugby, team is that everyone at the game is a potential friend.

My father always told me while I was young that "He/Her that travels alone, travels fastest". In other words, don't wait for someone to go with you as while you travel, you meet people.

My best example with reference to City goes back to August 1959. I was 16 and went on my own by train to Sheffield leaving Temple Meads at 1 am in night. To change trains for Scunthorpe meant a ten minute walk to a different station and in that ten minutes, I met a lifelong friend. His name Bob Fricker. His friendship introduced me to many other young City fans who lived in South Bristol, I lived in Filton, including a very young Chris Garland.

Inevitability, like ships in the night, you may lose them as close friends, but with a football club, you keep them and add others.

So don't be afraid to go on your own. The Liverpool anthem says it all. "You'll never walk alone".

PS. Did you enjoy the win ?

Thanks for your interesting story.

Out of curiosity, is your friend any relation to the former (excellent) local referee, Len Fricker.

[Rebounder]

Good to see this thread here just took me a while to post. As we know people who are struggling can really struggle to access advice about money, housing, services and other helpful information. 

It might be helpful to have a list of services and support that are available for people to access in Bristol. I will have a look as there are likely already resources like this, but if not I am happy to put together a small list of organisations I have used and then we can add to it as we go if people feel this would be helpful. 

Caring in Bristol actually have a great survival handbook mainly aimed at homeless people but is very useful for this. 

https://caringinbristol.co.uk/project/caring-handbook/

I'd also really recommend the North Bristol Advice centre if anyone has questions about money or benefits - http://www.northbristoladvice.org.uk/

There is also a really good guide on turn 2 us for claiming PIP: 

https://www.turn2us.org.uk/Benefit-guides/Personal-Independence-Payment/What-is-PIP

If there are general questions around access to services and benefits/housing then I'd be happy to help if I can with the caveat that I'm not an expert though have some work and personal experience of both.   Don't always drop into threads so feel free to PM. 

Edited September 4, 2021 by Rebounder

[cidered abroad]

On 02/09/2021 at 22:14, PHILINFRANCE said:

Thanks for your interesting story.

Out of curiosity, is your friend any relation to the former (excellent) local referee, Len Fricker.

@PHILINFRANCE

To best of my knowledge I don't think so. Rob Fricker was a Bemmy boy who grew up in a street off East Street. He was the Steward of the Supporters Club for many years.

I worked in same company, Colodense in West Street with Len Fricker. He refereed a Glos Cup Final at Ashton Gate in late 60's or early 70's and we gave him some strong verbals the next day because he seemed to have favoured the Gas who won.

How different then to now. I stood in the Covered End with a Gas work colleague.

 

 

[Jerseybean]

[BigTone]

1 hour ago, cidered abroad said:

@PHILINFRANCE

To best of my knowledge I don't think so. Rob Fricker was a Bemmy boy who grew up in a street off East Street. He was the Steward of the Supporters Club for many years.

I worked in same company, Colodense in West Street with Len Fricker. He refereed a Glos Cup Final at Ashton Gate in late 60's or early 70's and we gave him some strong verbals the next day because he seemed to have favoured the Gas who won.

How different then to now. I stood in the Covered End with a Gas work colleague.

 

 

I was friendly with a family called Fricker in Adelaide. They came from around Bemmy. Unusual name so probably related.

[exAtyeoMax]

I don't usually like these kind of motivational messages but Joe Rogan is spot on here…

[Taz]

Only just catching up with the thread. Has anybody seen or heard from @Tre Bong recently?

 

Hope you're OK buddy.

[oldstandrobin]

On 04/09/2021 at 08:39, cidered abroad said:

@PHILINFRANCE

To best of my knowledge I don't think so. Rob Fricker was a Bemmy boy who grew up in a street off East Street. He was the Steward of the Supporters Club for many years.

I worked in same company, Colodense in West Street with Len Fricker. He refereed a Glos Cup Final at Ashton Gate in late 60's or early 70's and we gave him some strong verbals the next day because he seemed to have favoured the Gas who won.

How different then to now. I stood in the Covered End with a Gas work colleague.

 

 

I know Rob's brother Reg, who now lives in Lympsham.  BTW I used to work for Walter Cannings in Avonmouth as a rep for Somerset and Dorset. Knew Colodense very well.

[Vespa Red]

My wife has stage 4 breast cancer.  There is no cure.

I cry every day: I talk every day.  The pain is going to get worse for me but I hate to think what it is like for her knowing that she is leaving us behind.

I don't think that we've talked as much as we have in the last 6 weeks: yes, we've talked but we'd never really talked if you know what I mean.

In the words of a northern soul song (Darrow Fletcher I think), the pain get's a little bit deeper every day.  And it will.  But I cherish the moments I have left with her and value my friends who are there to lend an ear (some of them are on here - you know who you are and I love you for that).

[phantom]

8 minutes ago, Vespa Red said:

My wife has stage 4 breast cancer.  There is no cure.

I cry every day: I talk every day.  The pain is going to get worse for me but I hate to think what it is like for her knowing that she is leaving us behind.

I don't think that we've talked as much as we have in the last 6 weeks: yes, we've talked but we'd never really talked if you know what I mean.

In the words of a northern soul song (Darrow Fletcher I think), the pain get's a little bit deeper every day.  And it will.  But I cherish the moments I have left with her and value my friends who are there to lend an ear (some of them are on here - you know who you are and I love you for that).

My heart breaks when I read things like this, I just split up with my partner of 4 months and am in pieces but feel so selfish when I read something like this that just puts things more into perspective

[Jerseybean]

21 hours ago, Vespa Red said:

My wife has stage 4 breast cancer.  There is no cure.

I cry every day: I talk every day.  The pain is going to get worse for me but I hate to think what it is like for her knowing that she is leaving us behind.

I don't think that we've talked as much as we have in the last 6 weeks: yes, we've talked but we'd never really talked if you know what I mean.

In the words of a northern soul song (Darrow Fletcher I think), the pain get's a little bit deeper every day.  And it will.  But I cherish the moments I have left with her and value my friends who are there to lend an ear (some of them are on here - you know who you are and I love you for that).

VR my thoughts are with you. Having worked in a Hospice for 10 years I was reminded everyday of the importance of living every day as if it were your last one, I don’t mean being reckless but maximizing the day and taking nothing for granted. Terminal illness and life threatening situations reinforce so many things that we too often take for granted. 

[oldstandrobin]

21 hours ago, Vespa Red said:

My wife has stage 4 breast cancer.  There is no cure.

I cry every day: I talk every day.  The pain is going to get worse for me but I hate to think what it is like for her knowing that she is leaving us behind.

I don't think that we've talked as much as we have in the last 6 weeks: yes, we've talked but we'd never really talked if you know what I mean.

In the words of a northern soul song (Darrow Fletcher I think), the pain get's a little bit deeper every day.  And it will.  But I cherish the moments I have left with her and value my friends who are there to lend an ear (some of them are on here - you know who you are and I love you for that).

VR, as someone who looks like we share common interests, my heart goes out to you. I am fortunate to be married 50 years this December and so I cannot imagine what you are going through. Cherish the time you have with your wife as BOTH of you are special. You will find many who will talk with you and help you through this and remember it is about you as well. My thoughts and prayers go out to you both.

[In the Net]

On 07/09/2021 at 11:20, Vespa Red said:

My wife has stage 4 breast cancer.  There is no cure.

I cry every day: I talk every day.  The pain is going to get worse for me but I hate to think what it is like for her knowing that she is leaving us behind.

I don't think that we've talked as much as we have in the last 6 weeks: yes, we've talked but we'd never really talked if you know what I mean.

In the words of a northern soul song (Darrow Fletcher I think), the pain get's a little bit deeper every day.  And it will.  But I cherish the moments I have left with her and value my friends who are there to lend an ear (some of them are on here - you know who you are and I love you for that).

Heartbreaking for you.  You'll probably be surprised at the strength you wife finds to cope with the situation,  it's really good to hear that you're having memorable conversations, as you say, cherish every moment.  Thoughts are with you and your family. x 

[Dollymarie]

I ****ing hate cancer  

[Vespa Red]

21 hours ago, oldstandrobin said:

VR, as someone who looks like we share common interests, my heart goes out to you. I am fortunate to be married 50 years this December and so I cannot

8 hours ago, In the Net said:

Heartbreaking for you.  You'll probably be surprised at the strength you wife finds to cope with the situation,  it's really good to hear that you're having memorable conversations, as you say, cherish every moment.  Thoughts are with you and your family. x 

imagine what you are going through. Cherish the time you have with your wife as BOTH of you are special. You will find many who will talk with you and help you through this and remember it is about you as well. My thoughts and prayers go out to you both.

Yes, thank you both.  Life does feel bigger than it has done previously and although I have now become my wife's carer (secondaries all down the spine, pelvis, hips, femur as well as the lung and liver and so she's now pretty immobile), it isn't a chore at all: I regard it as a privilege.

Hardly unsurprisingly @Dollymarie, I ******* hate cancer too!

[BigTone]

On 07/09/2021 at 11:20, Vespa Red said:

My wife has stage 4 breast cancer.  There is no cure.

I cry every day: I talk every day.  The pain is going to get worse for me but I hate to think what it is like for her knowing that she is leaving us behind.

I don't think that we've talked as much as we have in the last 6 weeks: yes, we've talked but we'd never really talked if you know what I mean.

In the words of a northern soul song (Darrow Fletcher I think), the pain get's a little bit deeper every day.  And it will.  But I cherish the moments I have left with her and value my friends who are there to lend an ear (some of them are on here - you know who you are and I love you for that).

Made me well up TBH that I left it a while before answering. Really feel for you both. All you can do is cherish your time together which I am sure you are doing 100%. Your love will help you through. Won't make it any easier but will give you both strength to continue. My thoughts are with you both.

[phantom]

15 hours ago, BigTone said:

Made me well up TBH that I left it a while before answering. Really feel for you both. All you can do is cherish your time together which I am sure you are doing 100%. Your love will help you through. Won't make it any easier but will give you both strength to continue. My thoughts are with you both.

These sort of replies need a heart icon, can only echo the above

[phantom]