I'm not very well and I don't know where else to go

[slartibartfast]

My wife is a trained Cognitive Therapist, if you'd like to chat to her, on phone or on line PM me, cheers 

[RUSSEL85]

What a fantastic group of people on here! Restores my faith in humanity. 

[Porto Red]

What is this doing in the transfer forum, please transfer me and my post to the psych ward, thanks again for all of you amazing people for giving me a laugh on top of my partial breakdown of this evening 

2 minutes ago, RUSSEL85 said:

What a fantastic group of people on here! Restores my faith in humanity. 

There's no heart emoji so consider this it

[chinapig]

6 minutes ago, Porto Red said:

There are a lot of really good people on here and a lot of replies that deserve my proper response, I will get round to when I can. Just went to say really and emotionally, thank you for being here for me, I know you would have done so for someone else who really needed it 

I'm sure everyone here will agree that you do not need to take the time to reply to all those posts.

We all just wish you well and are here if you need us.

[alexukhc]

Here for ya mate

[Bazooka Joe]

11 minutes ago, Porto Red said:

Sorry I ran out of likes, thank you each one of you who took the time to reply, I feel suitably embarrassed now because there are most people in life with better reasons to be messed up than mine, just all came to a head this evening but I'm ok really. You guys are heroes really. I'm going back in my shell now .

Dear Porto Red,

Good to hear you're okay and feeling better.

No need to feel embarrassed or apologise.

It looks like you have a lot supportive and understanding friends on here.

Take care and do speak privately to someone. 

[Lew-T]

There are a lot of good people on here. Nothing wrong with this at all @Porto Red. It’s a very good thing in fact…

Keep going mate.

[Fordy62]

An anonymous group of people with shared interests wasn’t a bad call for somewhere to go mate. 

More people should. 

And if ever you’re feeling that way again, then just shout up. 

[Pickle Rick]

Absolutely the best thing is a call for help. 

Talk to someone even if you’re not feeling great. There’s always people more than happy to jump in and assist.

Mental health needs a kick up the arse sometimes

[tin]

Be kind to yourself, @Porto Red. No matter how bad things might be right now, tomorrow will be a better day. Here if you need a chat. 

Edited August 15, 2023 by tin

[RedEyez]

We’re all with you, @Porto Red. It’s okay not to be okay. Stay strong mucker and I hope you can work through whatever it is that is troubling you x

Edited August 15, 2023 by RedEyez

[Porto Red]

You people should be proud of yourselves, you really got me through this evening of some kind of dark tea time of the soul, and each time I come back to catch up on the comments, I start blubbering again. Thank you each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart and soul, you made a difference to someone today.

[Mr Popodopolous]

1 hour ago, Porto Red said:

**** my stupid brain 

If you need assistance, let OTIB know.

What is it? Feel free to drop a PM if you need to talk.

[cidered abroad]

50 minutes ago, Porto Red said:

Sorry I ran out of likes, thank you each one of you who took the time to reply, I feel suitably embarrassed now because there are most people in life with better reasons to be messed up than mine, just all came to a head this evening but I'm ok really. You guys are heroes really. I'm going back in my shell now .

Hello @Porto Red I've only just seen your opening post and you can add my name to the list who are willing for you to send a private message.

We all go through dark moments in our lives. My first wife took her own life so I've experienced both sides of life. So I'm always here to listen and try to help.

PS. A good cry can work wonders.

After the rain comes sunshine.

Edited August 15, 2023 by cidered abroad

[DeputyDoggie]

Hello @Porto Red,

I can't recall the last time I posted, but i am moved to drop by and give you a hug my fellow red.

Many tonight have expressed support and advice better than I could possibly do so. And so a hug it is....

Edited August 15, 2023 by DeputyDoggie

[chinapig]

27 minutes ago, Porto Red said:

You people should be proud of yourselves, you really got me through this evening of some kind of dark tea time of the soul, and each time I come back to catch up on the comments, I start blubbering again. Thank you each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart and soul, you made a difference to someone today.

Is that a reference to Douglas Adams' The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul? If so, nice one!

[BritAbroad]

1 hour ago, Porto Red said:

Sorry I ran out of likes, thank you each one of you who took the time to reply, I feel suitably embarrassed now because there are most people in life with better reasons to be messed up than mine, just all came to a head this evening but I'm ok really. You guys are heroes really. I'm going back in my shell now .

Never feel that you should diminish how you feel or compare yourselves to others. Sometimes the brain is gonna be out of whack, and that's okay. We are all here to support you in whatever way you need.

[Taylor10]

1 hour ago, Porto Red said:

Sorry I ran out of likes, thank you each one of you who took the time to reply, I feel suitably embarrassed now because there are most people in life with better reasons to be messed up than mine, just all came to a head this evening but I'm ok really. You guys are heroes really. I'm going back in my shell now .

Hi mate. I really hope you are ok. Please don’t feel embarrassed or compare your situation to others. We all have our own battles and struggles in life, but right now how you feel is what’s important. Not other people and their reasons. You are important mate. Don’t lose sight of that.

Feel free to drop me a DM anytime. I am here for you if you want to talk. The last 6 months of my life have been incredibly tough and I have been in a bad place myself and whilst this post isn’t about me, it’s about you, I can at least try and relate and use any experience I have had should you want to talk. If you want to talk I am here. Stay strong mate.

[Dastardly and Muttley]

This place is the best sometimes. Glad to hear you’re feeling a little better, Porto Red. Please remember there are plenty of people out there who will listen and help, and as others have said, OTIB isn’t a bad place to start! Feel free to drop a DM; or if you’re anywhere near Maidenhead (doubt it, given the username) then give me a shout to catch up sometime.

[Superjack]

2 hours ago, Porto Red said:

Sorry I ran out of likes, thank you each one of you who took the time to reply, I feel suitably embarrassed now because there are most people in life with better reasons to be messed up than mine, just all came to a head this evening but I'm ok really. You guys are heroes really. I'm going back in my shell now .

Stay out of the shell mate. 

Don't know what it is, or if I can help, but I'm a good listener. Consider my name added to the list of DM options.

And mods... get the 'good to talk' thread pinned back on Football Chat where it can be seen. I fact, pin it on EVERY subforum.

Edited August 16, 2023 by Superjack

[iamalagerdrinker]

Hope you’re feeling better today mate. 
 

thinking of you. 

[Bazooka Joe]

Good morning Porto Red.

Keep in touch.

All the best.

[LondonBristolian]

All credit to you for speaking out and asking for help. Don’t ever feel you need to apologise for or justify not being in a great place. Yes - lots of people have things going on but that doesn’t in any way mean the things you have going on are not valid.

Hope you are feeling better today and whatever there is going on in your life that can be resolved finds a way to resolve itself. 

[exAtyeoMax]

9 hours ago, Porto Red said:

Sorry I ran out of likes, thank you each one of you who took the time to reply, I feel suitably embarrassed now because there are most people in life with better reasons to be messed up than mine, just all came to a head this evening but I'm ok really. You guys are heroes really. I'm going back in my shell now .

Never feel embarrassed about calling for help. Please don’t judge your situation by other people’s (I know we all do it) but sometimes we all need a bit of help/reassurance.

[Super]

We're one big family on here PR. Never feel embarrassed.

[Red Army 75]

Well done OTIB. Fantastic. 

[nellie]

Good morning hope all is well always here to listen to ANYONE if they feel the need to get something off their chest 

[bcfc01]

Why has the "Its good to talk" thread been hidden on general chat.

The whole point of the thread is to give it visibility.

No point in having a locked, confusing, pinned thread on each forum - it was fine as it was.

[italian dave]

Hope things are a bit better this morning RP. 
You said you were going back in your shell, which is fine, but don’t stay there all the time. Thanks to the wonders of technology whether you’re in Porto or Portishead there’s always a friend to talk to. 

[RedRock]

Re-build brick by brick. Sometimes, when you’re not strong , stay still and even if it’s just two bricks that’s progress. 

You’ve already started. An absolute brilliant ‘reach out’ on a sub-forum full of people who you don’t know but who care, many no doubt having experienced life lows. You are not alone.