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19 hours ago, TomShor10 said:

Anyone else dreading not having City to take their mind off of life when the World Cup is on? Feel like I’ve been mentally limping for a while and going down the Gate takes my mind away from it all for a couple of hours. Sounds silly but not sure how I’ll cope…

You`ll be fine mate, just keep looking forward to getting back to AG when it`s all over. Come on here whenever you feel the need as there`s loads that will try and keep your spirits up if we can.

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On 01/11/2022 at 10:45, phantom said:

I am sure those of us that not only post but also read this thread take great strength from the open and honest posts that are shared

I am looking for some assistance please, each month on a zoom call we take it in turns to host a 60 minute section where we have different discussions, I am scheduled to host the call in December.

I was wondering if anyone has any links to any sites or even a short video that discusses being alone at Christmas and supporting those who need help?

I have had a look at the webinars that I have been on this year but they are not really what I am looking for

I would be VERY grateful for any assistance

I would be happy to help if available. As you know I'm a clinical hypnotherapist and season ticket holder. Although after last night's performance I wonder why I bother! ? Message me for a chat.

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On 07/11/2022 at 23:30, TomShor10 said:

Anyone else dreading not having City to take their mind off of life when the World Cup is on? Feel like I’ve been mentally limping for a while and going down the Gate takes my mind away from it all for a couple of hours. Sounds silly but not sure how I’ll cope…

Happy to chat with you if it helps. I pop in here now and again to offer people a bit of support. I'm an experienced hypnotherapist and life coach. 

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On 09/11/2022 at 12:08, Pippintogg said:

Happy to chat with you if it helps. I pop in here now and again to offer people a bit of support. I'm an experienced hypnotherapist and life coach. 

I can definitely relate to this, been struggling mentally for the past few weeks, going down the gate always helps with my mental health, despite the recent results, ever need a chat feel free to message ?

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Afternoon All, 

Just sharing this info on behalf of my friends at Talk Club in case it's helpful, it's a great service and community.

We are delighted to launch our new Talking group on 23/11/22 with @bristolcityrobinsfoundation at Ashton Gate.
Co-founder @gavinthorpe and Bristol Actor and City fan Joe Sims will be hosting the first session. 
Email hello@talkclub.org for more information.
#talkclub10 #mentalfitness #mensmentalhealth

 

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30 minutes ago, Bristol Rob said:

This clearly doesn't belong in a dustbin thread, but I wasn't sure where to place it.

Poor bloke, can't imagine what his family have been through.

 

 

 

 

As a parent this is absolute fear, may that young soul rest in peace and may Darrell and his family have my whole hearted respect n sympathy

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12 hours ago, Bristol Rob said:

This clearly doesn't belong in a dustbin thread, but I wasn't sure where to place it.

Poor bloke, can't imagine what his family have been through.

 

 

 

 

It's an awful thing, I don't know how he has been able to concentrate on his job, I don't know how anyone can deal with pain like that. The Stoke Sentinel have chosen a very insensitive photograph to illustrate the piece.

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I know that this story was kept out of the press for as long as possible, but it was known about when the tragic event occurred 

One thing to share is the information below, and that's the reason I have moved this topic out of the piss taking Rovers thread into hear 

Need help?

The Samaritans : 116 123. Website: www.samaritans.org . Email: jo@samaritans.org

Offer a 24-hour confidential helpline. You can also contact them by text or email.

NHS 111 Service : 111. Website: www.nhs.uk .

Call the NHS 111 service if you urgently require medical help or advice. The service is availabe 24-hours-a-day, 365-days-a-year. Calls are free from landlines and mobile phones.

Mind Infoline : 0300 123 3393. Website: www.mind.org.uk . Email: info@mind.org.uk. Text: 86463

Information on a range of mental health problems and support. Lines are open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday (except for bank holidays).

HOPELineUK : 0800 068 41 41

A specialist telephone service staffed by trained professionals at PAPYRUS who give non-judgemental support, practical advice and information to children, teenagers, young adults aged up to 35 and anyone concerned about a young person. Opening hours are 10am to 10pm, Mondays to Fridays, 2pm to 5pm, weekends and bank holidays.

NSPCC Childline : 0800 1111. Website: www.childline.org.uk

Children’s charity offering support and carrying out research into mental illness.

SANE : 0845 767 8000. Website: www.sane.org.uk . Email: sanemail@sane.org.uk

Out-of-hours mental health helpline offering specialist emotional support and information to anyone affected by mental illness, including family, friends and carers. Open every day from 6pm to 11pm.

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Mr Popodopolous

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Feel free to move this to the correct section if required first and foremost. I posted it last night but not so well.

It's a bit of a question of etiquette and or form more than anything.

Basically the venue in which I had the disastrous meet with someone last June that I posted about on here, hopefully that post was seen as relatively humorously.

I digress, back off to that venue or planning to with someone else and doing a much better job of it.

It was a venue that she suggested for completion purposes. I've decided to co-opt it in a sense and use it to go with someone else.

I am comfortable with it but thought I might ask for a little advice- is there a risk or perception that I could be construed as taking the piss somewhat?

My plan is that I won't run into her and vice versa and obviously won't boast or shout about it online but is it possible she might somehow see it as me acting in a manner that is less than constructive, a perception that I am setting out to wind her up?

My view is that yes she should not get irked at all, no reason to. She probably won't.

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On 12/12/2022 at 21:45, Mr Popodopolous said:

Feel free to move this to the correct section if required first and foremost. I posted it last night but not so well.

It's a bit of a question of etiquette and or form more than anything.

Basically the venue in which I had the disastrous meet with someone last June that I posted about on here, hopefully that post was seen as relatively humorously.

I digress, back off to that venue or planning to with someone else and doing a much better job of it.

It was a venue that she suggested for completion purposes. I've decided to co-opt it in a sense and use it to go with someone else.

I am comfortable with it but thought I might ask for a little advice- is there a risk or perception that I could be construed as taking the piss somewhat?

My plan is that I won't run into her and vice versa and obviously won't boast or shout about it online but is it possible she might somehow see it as me acting in a manner that is less than constructive, a perception that I am setting out to wind her up?

My view is that yes she should not get irked at all, no reason to. She probably won't.

I wouldn't see it as a problem 

Life needs to move on and I guess there are only a finite number of places you can go anyway? 

I've done similar, bars etc I would go with, with the person I was dating last year felt awkward going back with current partner. 

Apart from my marriage I coming up to being with someone for the longest period of time, it's not been plain sailing but at 47 I never thought I'd hear someone tell me that they love me again 

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13 hours ago, phantom said:

I wouldn't see it as a problem 

Life needs to move on and I guess there are only a finite number of places you can go anyway? 

I've done similar, bars etc I would go with, with the person I was dating last year felt awkward going back with current partner. 

Apart from my marriage I coming up to being with someone for the longest period of time, it's not been plain sailing but at 47 I never thought I'd hear someone tell me that they love me again 

Cheers for the advice.

Yes agreed. Indeed this is true, is a good venue why let a suspect experience with Person A tarnish the overall venue.

I have a bit of a tendency to dwell, look back etc- that can play on things a bit with me but life goes on, it's about time.

That is good, happy for you. Hope it continues to progress well.

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7 hours ago, Mr Popodopolous said:

Cheers for the advice.

Yes agreed. Indeed this is true, is a good venue why let a suspect experience with Person A tarnish the overall venue.

I have a bit of a tendency to dwell, look back etc- that can play on things a bit with me but life goes on, it's about time.

That is good, happy for you. Hope it continues to progress well.

Thank you for your kind words, like many others on this thread I have really struggled this year at times 

But one thing that has worked for me was a webinar I took over six weeks that looked into why I was feeling down, nervous, anxious etc and it really hit home on why I was reacting and acting like I did. 

I'm not going to pretend I'm completely better, but I can feel the difference already in how I feel and react to situations in life, and I am confident that I am steadily building foundations to keep me improving. Yes I have had bad days since but I have the extra belief now that I can understand and control what is going on in my head. 

I'm exactly the same as you describe above and am well known by my friends and especially my beautiful girlfriend to be a massive over thinker and will dwell and create situations in my mind that are a lot worse. I'm obviously very fortunate to have found someone who can understand my flaws and I am blessed that she has stood by me and helped me even when I have been an absolute arse hole to her and other people. 

I've had a crazy week at work this week with data migration from one business to another, I was really proud of how I handled the chaos and challenges that came my way, I know in the past that would have beaten me. 

It was nice my boss took the time to call me and congratulate me not only on the work I did but also he recognised that in the past this would have defeated me but this time I was totally in control. 

Obviously a lot of my positivity comes from the love and support of my partner, but equally reading this thread was also a massive help at times to know that I was not alone in our battles. 

I want to thank all those who sent me personal messages not just of support but also for reaching out and making me realise there are people always out there to help. 

I always believe that If one person can get strength and positive feelings from this thread then we should all be proud of ourselves for the little part that we have played in helping someone else's life. 

In the past I have really struggled with this time of the year but for the first time in a very long time I am really looking forward to Christmas, and spending it with my soul mate and her family. I was so made up when she asked me if I would like to spend Christmas with her and her family. 

I'm sending love, and positive thoughts to anyone who is struggling at the moment. You CAN beat this and you WILL beat this, in many situations it will feel a million miles away at the moment but don't be hard on yourself if you feel down or are upset one day, that just means you have a big heart and you care 

Merry Christmas x

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1 hour ago, Tafkarmlf said:

Did I mention I ******* hate Xmas. 

Mates little girl on life support with pneumonia strep and tonsillitis and partners family riddled with Covid. 

Stress doesn't cover it

Awful news about your friends daughter, we can only pray that she survives this awful time

For the past few years I have really hated this time of year with a passion. My birthday is Boxing day and for many reasons I really wish I could skip a few days.

BUT, this year my new partner has invited me to spend Christmas with her and hopefully will spend time with her for my birthday too

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It's important to remember even though this time of the year is primarily about celebrating with friends and family, there are also people who find this time of the year very hard. 

Nobody should feel like they are a burden or would be better off dead, if you or you know someone who is feeling like that please pass on these numbers

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On 08/10/2021 at 16:16, Jerseybean said:

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Exactly this, but its difficult, as you think about past xmases with my brother/sisters and their families, for the past 2 years I have been chucked on the rubbish pile and they have not contacted me at all; my crime was to take my wife to hospital in Chelt, for a last chance op to save a smashed eye ball and stay with her; rather than attend my 95yr old mothers funeral in Bristol, who died from dementia/covid. (The op saved her eye ball but not her sight in one eye and she has not driven since)

Still have my own family and grandchildren to get me through, but still think of years past

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1 hour ago, gl2 said:

Exactly this, but its difficult, as you think about past xmases with my brother/sisters and their families, for the past 2 years I have been chucked on the rubbish pile and they have not contacted me at all; my crime was to take my wife to hospital in Chelt, for a last chance op to save a smashed eye ball and stay with her; rather than attend my 95yr old mothers funeral in Bristol, who died from dementia/covid. (The op saved her eye ball but not her sight in one eye and she has not driven since)

Still have my own family and grandchildren to get me through, but still think of years past

Dear gl2 it's so sad to hear this situation has occured but please don't beat yourself up over it. Your dear old mum would have been born about the same time as mine and that generation of ladies put their families, particularly their children, above everything else and made tremendous sacrifices to ensure their wellbeing. I should know as I was the eldest of 8 kids, dragged up in Knowle West, and as I grew older I could understand what was going on. I'm sure your Mum would have been of the same ilk and would perfectly understand the decision you made. 

Hopefully sometime in the near future your siblings will have a change of heart, maybe through a situation they experience, which will change their outlook. 

In the meantime stay focused on the loved ones around you and try to stay positive looking forward. Best regards.

 

 

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12 hours ago, redysteadygo said:

Dear gl2 it's so sad to hear this situation has occured but please don't beat yourself up over it. Your dear old mum would have been born about the same time as mine and that generation of ladies put their families, particularly their children, above everything else and made tremendous sacrifices to ensure their wellbeing. I should know as I was the eldest of 8 kids, dragged up in Knowle West, and as I grew older I could understand what was going on. I'm sure your Mum would have been of the same ilk and would perfectly understand the decision you made. 

Hopefully sometime in the near future your siblings will have a change of heart, maybe through a situation they experience, which will change their outlook. 

In the meantime stay focused on the loved ones around you and try to stay positive looking forward. Best regards.

 

 

I was brought up in Kingswood for 25yrs my mum lived there most of her life in a council house until she couldnt live there anymore as she didnt know what day of the week it was anymore; strangely one of my sisters lives in Knowle West has done since she got married.

Of course I thought of my mum on her funeral day and was there in mind even if my body was in Chelt Hospital car park pacing up and down being torn apart with not being in 2 places at the same time.

Anyway whats done is done would make the same choice again if I could turn back time, what are the chances of both happening on the same day

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I lost my dear wife of nearly 40 years in the same circumstances as Darrell Clarke's daughter back in September. Life is so cruel.

Now, 3 months on, things are no easier, in fact some days when I'm alone, things feel a lot worse.

I've started on some bereavement counselling but will definitely refuse any medication offered as I feel that made things worse for her.

I have now returned to Ashton Gate having stayed away for 4 months and I'm going to Coventry tomorrow just to have something to get me through the dreaded NYE.

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